I have been married for 13 years. I am the one seeking the divorce. Everything on this website is geared toward the person who has been left, and changing the spouses’ mind. But what about when someone is dealing with a desire to be free of a spouse that they do not love? I want to be free to actually love someone and to be loved. My marriage is loveless. He is not BAD to me, just not GOOD to me. I need prayer for the decision that I am making. For peace in that decision. I need prayer that I will not be condemmed for my decision. Fear not, for I am with you….but I have so much fear…doubt…am I making a huge mistake? If God is with me, why do I feel so alone????
Prayer Request Callie
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HI Callie, I guess I would ask why you don’t love your husband anymore? What is love, is it a feeling or an action to you? Falling out of love isn’t a biblical reason for divorce but people divorce for that reason all the time. If you do follow through with the divorce you should not worry about being condemned, at least not by God.
Callie, you don’t have to be in a loveless marriage. Pray that God will put love in your heart for your husband and begin to love him with actions and not feelings. Feelings are misleading but with actions of love and kindness you may reach him and he will in turn do the same for you. I recommend trying anything you can to show your husband that you care for him.
There is a great book out there called “The Five Love Languages
” by Gary Chapmen. Give it a read and try it out.
In my opinion you will be so much more blessed if you get through this. Whatever you do don’t beat yourself up, we all make wrong decisions and God deals with us accordingly but we survive and hopefully learn from our mistakes.
When I felt the lonliness and far from God was when I wasn’t reaching out to him. He is right there… open your bible and start reading it. Find a quiet place to pray and get some exercise, walk around the block (it will help).
Jason