During a recent Sunday service, the pastor prayed that we would be able to trust in the Lord when our lives have not turned out the way we would have wanted or they are not going how we would like. Of course, that is a good thing to pray for especially with all that is going on with the economy these days.
I have felt this way and still do feel this way at times. There are things that I want and that I feel should be different in my life to make it better. I quickly realized that the only reason to pray such a prayer would be due to not being obedient to God and doing His will. If we are to follow God and abide by His word, then our lives are going to be better than we could have ever imagined. It is with fleshly desires and expectations while putting ourselves above all else that we end up in a situation where we are disappointed in our lives.
None of us are perfect, and we are bound to make mistakes that make us question where we are at in our lives, but I find it difficult at times to trust God or how to trust God. So what do we do when in this kind of situation? The pastor had these 5 points to help trust God in hard times while moving forward.
- Keep communicating with God through prayer
- Consider internal posture. Are you a victim? A contributor? Are you paralyzed or can you act? From a divorce standpoint, I felt like a victim, and I was wronged. However, I refuse to live life as a victim. I have seen, first hand, what it does to people and I am not going to blame everyone for my problems. Later I realized that I was a contributor, both good and bad. Here is where forgiveness and repentance play its role. When it comes to our behavior we can almost always act, it may take time for the shock of some things to wear off, but we can act!
- Consider who is watching you. This is a good one to remember. Where are your children? Do they see how you learn from difficult times? Do they understand what it is all about? I remember times when I had to go get Madalyn from her mom because her mom was having one of her “moments.” It would break my heart, and I would show up with tears in my eyes. One time my little girl put her hand on my cheek, looked me in the eyes, and told me it was going to be all right. (She was 2 years old) A child’s compassion and gentle encouragement had broken me, and I vowed at that moment to not let my weakness show. That happened over 2 years ago, and it sometimes feels like yesterday.I love talking about my little kid, so I am going to tell one more story. Last weekend we were playing one of our games that she loves to play called “power ranger.” She is the power ranger, and I am the power ranger hunter. Its basically king of the mountain on the bed and the floor is the hot lava or as she would say wava. It is a pillow fight and wrestling match where I tend to win. Anyhow, she surprisingly gets my sleeve off my arm, which forces me to lose the shirt to win the match. She calls timeout and runs out of the room. She comes back in after a quick change of the clothes; she dressed just like me with socks blue jeans and no shirt. I ask what she is doing, and she says, I want to be like you daddy.” It was so cute; poor kid thinks she wants to be like me. The point is our children want to be like their parents, and we need to show them healthy godly ways of dealing with the good and the bad.
- Look outside ourselves. Is there anyone that we can help?
- Hold on to God’s character and ways. I lose track of this sometimes, and I think that God is punishing me for all the bad I have done. That God is holding me back from the success, I desire. Both of which are not God’s heart. God is a loving, forgiving God. I should TRUST Him; He wants what is best for me and you!