Please pray for me. I am in the final stages of a divorce (the proposal decree part from my husband)….we have 3 little boys, and of course dad has the great career and mom was home the last 12 years as a stay home mom. Hubby is bitter and does not see that he contributed to my lonliness by working late every night…so I found someone…but now want my family back together…I’m wanting to do the right thing….the Christlike thing…I know about Christ’s grace and he’s already forgiven me, but why hasn’t my Christian husband? He says he’s divorcing me for trust issues. I even got on my knees pleading him to forgive me….it did not work. He hugged me and told me that he just could not be hurt again. What does the man want? We were married 18 years. Does it sound like he might just be glad I’m gone since he’ll probably get Primary Custody of the little ones? Is this his way of revenge? I’m very sad…and am being forced to live in Collin County by a judge for the next 13 years because hubby would not allow me any other choice. Confused and alone…just wondering if the man ever loved me? I need your prayers.
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It seems your husband has issues to settle. e.g on trusting, forgiving, blaming etc. think he is quite confused and hurt too and may not be ready to work on the marriage. You can’t force him to stay but you yourself can decide to ‘let go and let God’. You know God said His grace is sufficient for us. Just trust Him, the one who is forgiving and constantly there. Do not second guess what your husband’s intentions are, it will only sap energy, let God deal. He is above all including your husband. I pray that the Lord will give you His peace and rest. Focus on growing in the Lord and in developing all the giftings you have in the meantime.
My friend who married and settled overseas was ‘chased off’ home without her infant child by her husband. Devastated but never gave up hope, came home, she worked on a career and in God’s time, a fews yrs later regained her child totally from her husband family. Mother and child just ‘clicked’ like never separated. Trust God and one day on hindsight, you’ll appreciate His work in your life even during this difficult time.
We all make choices in life and we must live with the consequences. Yes, GOD has forgiven you, but it does not mean that he will make your husband forgive you. God gave us free will to do what we want. I am so sorry that you and your family are in this situation, especially your three little ones. My wife is leaving me after 17 years of marriage. I have two beautiful children who love me, but she gets to decide for all of us what our future will be. I was served my papers this week, so she decided for me and my kids that they will only get to see Daddy, hopefully, half the time. She states incompatibility. That is a word that the world has come up with to get out of the marriage for any reason.
Brooke, if the shoe was on the other shoe, where your husband cheated on you, would you forgive him? Or would it take you some time to get your thoughts together and figure out what was best for the family? My wife is my bread winner. She makes 75% of our income because that was our plan. Now she wants me to leave our house, she wants full custody of our children, so I’ll have to pay child support, and she doesn’t believe that I should get any of her retirement, state teachers retirement system, even though I allocated my money more aggressive because her retirement was guarnteed, and I lost over 30K because of the economy. How should I feel. I’ve been staying at the house since OCT. because I get to see the kids everyday. She doesn’t say a word to me. It is very hard, but its about me and my kids now. I can only take care of what I am in control of, and that is myself. Gods in control of my life and HE is allowing this to happen. HIS WILL will not take me where HIS grace won’t get me through. He still has plans for me. Plans to prosper me and not to harm me, plans for a future and of hope. Jer. 29:11-13.