Hello. I am going through a rather difficult time in my life right now. My husband & I of only 1.5 years has asked me for a divorce out of nowhere. I have offered every type of help that I could think of to help us, be he refuses. I am very angry, bitter, saddened, hurt & feeling hatred towards him, which I know is not Christian-like. I am very confused & lost, and just pray that God will heal me. Thank you.
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I am going through the same situation as you are, but I have been married for 17 years. I am diving into GOD’s word, praying to GOD for strength in my weakness, get a support group through your church or family. Also there are Divorce Recovery groups that meet every week in churches or colleges, ect. My goal is not to go through divorce, but grow through divorce. If you have specific questions, I’m more than happy to help in anyway I can. JJ
Corinthia, it is okay to be angry. I have felt much hatred and anger when I was going through the divorce. But the key is to give it over to God and not let it make you bitter. Like Jerry said “grow through the divorce”. It is hard but you must remember that God has a purpose for you! God loves You! God will heal you!
Thank you so much for the words of encouragement. Every day gets a little better. I know that I gave our marriage my all, so I have decided to give all my anger over to God & let Him heal me. I have already learned so much from this, & I know that one day, I will love again.
JER 29:11-13 is a scripture that has a promise from God that I am clinging to. And this scripture is for all Christians. Read it, believe it, and let it bring you some comfort and peace. One thing you and I have in common in our situations is that neither of our spouses wanted counseling of any type. That is an area I have a lot of anger towards her. At least lets try and right the ship and then if it doesn’t work out, then at least we could say we tried everything we could to make it work for the kids and our marriage. Remember, it seems to me that it is two steps forward and one step backwards. Then there are days where I can find myself back near the being. It is a process. God and his timing will heal us. Patients is hard for me. I want the pain to go away yesterday and move on, but that is not the way it works. Knowing that you have given reconcilation your all for your marriage should help ease your mind of any guilt that there would be if you hadn’t tried everything. I pray for the best for you. JJ