The People God Puts in Our Lives

by Jason Deines

in Tips for Coping with Divorce

Over the years people have come in and out of my life and at times I wonder where they went… Did I do something to drive them away, did they get bored with me or could it be that the task they were sent to do has been completed and it was time for them to move on?

I have learned that God looks at the big picture when I am incapable of even fathoming the big picture. Even though God did not plan for my marriage to fail He foresaw it and planned for it. Ultimately I was supposed to learn something and become more Christ-like from the experience. Maybe I was supposed to learn something about other people, maybe something about me, or both. I am leaning towards both, I hope that God will use what I have gone through to help others, that is if I allow it. Sometimes I really need to put myself out there and I am not good at stepping outside of my comfort zone. But I have noticed that God is bringing people to me that are in a lot of pain and instead of me helping them they seem to be helping me. Their faith, hope, and outlook on life is encouraging. A blessing that makes me smile from ear to ear. God is using people all around the world to touch one another, help one another, mold us, teach us, comfort us, etc. At times things seem beyond hope until you look back a year later and see the tremendous progress you made and the people’s lives that have touched you and vice versa.

We all don’t have a Billy Graham or Chuck Smith ministry that touches millions but we do have a ministry that is just as important. The way we live our lives is our ministry, the people we interact with on a daily basis, how we treat our family… These are all important ministries. I know I have far to go obviously being divorced I have failed at my first marriage but I have learned tremendously! I have learned what love truly is and am eager to give all that I can. I have been blessed with a wonderful little girl that has completely melted my heart. I have learned compassion for the parent in the grocery store whose child is throwing fit.

A child can give great lessons on patience, compassion, love, long suffering – the fruits of the Spirit!

The point is we are all working for a greater good and God is using us whether we know it or not. As Christians we can rest assured that God is completing the good work that He started in us. Even when things seem to be falling apart… Maybe those are the times we learn the best.


{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Brian Daniel

I believe God makes changes in our lives that can serve to make us better people.

My divorce seemed like such a terrible thing, but it allowed me to do things I’ve always wanted to do. It allowed me to fix some problems I had, become a better person, do community service and get healthier as well.

Sure the divorce split up our family, but many of these relationships got better and I’ve had the pleasure of meeting other people too.

Many mysterious ways, God does have!

God Bless all, Brian

2 Shannon

Here, here Jason. Nice thoughts. :)

3 Jackie Cooper

My husband is in love with another women. I loved him, he was my best friend. We will be married for 14 years in May. We are still married and have been seperated for 5 months. I’m waiting for him to serve me divorce papers anytime. The affair went on for a year prior to my leaving. Leaning and looking to God, I tried to make it work but my husband didnt want it to work. So after much prayer and trusting in God I was lead to leave. The biggest struggle for me is walking in forgivness and unconditional love. This is difficult and there are many days that it feels like I am loosing the battle. But I have settled it in my mind that God is in charge and God will win this battled. I will trust Him to work ALL things for my good no matter how this turns out. God always reminds me that I may be the only Jesus my husband see’s so I will strive to continue to walk in love and see him through God’s eyes. His Word says, I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me. He has good plans for me. And I love this, I am made in the image of the Most High God!
Jesus knows a whole lot about rejection and injustice yet He did not sin, He continued to love even unto death. He was victorious…I’m hurting but because my hope is in the Most High God, I’m gonna be victorious too! Praise God! I am thankful for this encouraging website :)

4 Jason

Jackie,

Your post was great… At church today that is almost exactly what was discussed. Sometimes one spouse is the only thing that resembles Jesus in a relationship and given time it could change the other person’s heart. In many instances it does.

At times it is hard to rest on the assurance that God will complete the good work He started when we may not see the end result of comprehend it but it sounds like you are doing a pretty darn good job.

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