Hi Jason,
Thank you so much for doing this website. My husband divorced me & married someone else in less than a year (2006). I’m still not over it. I was well on the road to recovery with the Lord’s help & he (Tiger) showed up at my door on 2/14. I hadn’t spoken to him in 2 years. I feel like I’m starting over at square one dealing with the hurt. He only came to see me because he knows that I love him & he & his wife were fighting. I’m so drained in dealing with this & would appreciate your prayers very much. It always helps to talk to someone that’s been through it. Thank you, Jane
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Jane,
I don’t know if this is godly advice or not but if he wants to play you need to dismiss him because that is all he is doing and obviously doesn’t care about your feelings. 1) He is married and is not dealing with his problems with his current wife 2) If you get emotionally attached he will hurt you again.
You don’t need him and you can do much better. I am on a positive self talk kick today so here is what I say. Go to your mirror, look yourself in the eye and firmly tell yourself that you are doing great without him and God has a great plan for you. That you deserve a husband that will love you the way God intended and your ex is only getting in the way.
Let him know that you have moved on with your life and it is not appropriate for him to pop by anytime. Consider the matter dealt with and move on to a better place in your life.
I would be rejoicing if my wife showed up at my door. The privilage you had is something many long for day after day. Just because he is married to her legally does not mean God says that marriage is valid. David and Hosea both expierenced this with their wives. Ther wives were married legally to another but they both took their wives back. Hosea was even told specifically by God to do so as an example of God’s grace towards us. The length of time does not matter. In those stories we aren’t really given the amount of time but I only assume it was several years or more. One modern day account of this was a testimony by Dennis Wingfield who waited 8 years for his wife to come back. She died a year later. Thank God she was right with the lord. If he had not done that would she be in heaven today? Maybe God is asking you to do the same. Pray about it and pray for your husband because if he dies in his sin will he be in heaven or hell? That’s the big picture is their eternal salvation. Hell has been whitewashed by the church as not a big deal anymore but it is and it is very real. God prefers grace and us doing this will over our own wants and needs. Epeshians 5:25 tells me to love my wife like Christ loves the church. The church doesn’t always love Christ but he always loves us so I will choose to love my wife even though she in an affair with another. God has proven to me over and over that he is speaking to her. To the point she has talked of coming back many times. It did not take me telling her to come back but simply leaving the door open is she wanted to and praying praying praying for her. Now I wait on the Lord and will wait till the day I die if that is what is takes.