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Self-Improvement after Divorce

by Jason Deines

in Tips for Coping with Divorce

We know that everything happens for a reason and God has a purpose for our lives. Divorce can be devastating and we all go at our own pace when coping with divorce but there comes a time when we have to decide to get back in the game. Instead of locking yourself up in fear of past mistakes and heartache use what you have gone through to learn from and improve your life.

Have you ever seen the movie “Patch Adams” with Robin Williams? As a medical student he continued to fail, time and time again he failed which lead him to depression and suicidal tendencies. After time he realized that he needed help so he checked himself into the hospital where he met a variety of people whom impacted his life. This lead him to change his attitude and he continued to pursue his goal of becoming a doctor.

The point being – we all have our tragedies in life that can lead to anger, depression, isolation, bitterness, and so on. Typically we all will also have that life determining moment when we are faced with self-improvement or self-pity. I for one spent time in self-pity and pity-parties just aren’t that much fun. Self-improvement on the other hand will ultimately lead to success; success in future relationships, success at work, success with our children, and success in a godly life.

Tips for self-improvement after divorce:

  1. You are not a failure, so stop thinking it!
  2. Forgive yourself and others.
  3. Learn to love yourself. How can you improve yourself if you don’t love yourself? God loves you, God has a purpose for your life. Accept it and move on.
  4. We all make mistakes and will continue to do so. Life is about trial and error and making changes along the way.
  5. Take things one at a time. Don’t try to tackle everything at once, self-improvement takes time.
  6. Set meaningful and achievable goals. Did you know that less than 10 percent of the population actually has a set of goals writing down and live to achieve them? These same people are the ones that have an abundance of success in their lives. If you don’t know where you are going then how are you going to get there?
  7. Spend time with God, reading and praying – Proverbs is a good place to start.

Self-improvement doesn’t happen over night, however, once you start the process and stay committed it won’t be long until God starts changing your life. I have learned a lot about myself over the years and I want to be the best person I can be and yet I know I am a sinful man. There is always room for improvement and we are all on this earth to learn our lessons of life. Everyday we may encounter people that have something to teach us or reveal to us. Grasp these moments and strive for self-improvement because it will greatly increase the quality of your life.


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