Eye Opening Moment

Help Seeing Things in a New Light

by Jason Deines

in Tips for Coping with Divorce

Every so often I have an eye opening moment that reveals to me my true nature. At times there is always so much going on in our lives that we may be missing out on growing in our Christian walk, developing relationship with God, or hearing His voice. I have been told repeatedly that the best way to hear God is to read His word. Generally, He doesn’t go around speaking as a burning bush or from the clouds with a thunderous voice. More often it is through the Holy Spirit speaking to our hearts. Being the type of person that I am I sometimes go through what you would call dry spells in my relationship with God, the bible just doesn’t speak to me as it did in the past. Sometimes I don’t understand what it is saying even though I have read it several times before, it is like I am reading it for the first time without comprehending.

Recently, I was going through one of these moments and I realized a couple things that I needed to do in order to get back on track. The first is the most important, which was to slow down. Reading the bible requires time and focus. If I am trying to speed read through just so I can say that I read my bible today I am not going to get much from the time. In fact, I will likely feel the way I mentioned earlier – lost. Secondly, if you are like me you probably have been reading the same version of the bible for 10 plus years – NIV. When I mixed it up and began to read the New Living Translation I realized that I was able to understand it better and apply it to my life. I was able to see deeper into what was happening. I still love my NIV but the other translations aren’t blasphemy, all bible versions have their pros and cons.

Back to my eye opening moment – I have been reading and re-reading the Book of James in the New Living Translation bible and it has really been speaking to my heart. This book is a great book to read for people coping with divorce. It talks about faith and endurance, listening and doing, prejudice, faith, controlling the tongue, wisdom, drawing close to God, judging others, and self-confidence. These are all great topics that help to open up our eyes to the purpose God has for us and how we should treat others. I highly recommend that you take the time to read this book in the NLT. If you don’t have one or don’t want to read it online you can view it or print it by clicking HERE.


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1 claire

Hi.
Reading and wondering… Your “eye openning” note, touched me. I have been wondering lately, how to know if our path is continuing on that of the Lord’s. The decisions I now face (pending divorce) have options which are not what I would consider to be “good choices”… None of this is a good choice. So, I had been wondering.. what is the best choice :)
Then.. My eye openner.. Which was simply that if I have Jesus as my focus, as the center of my thoughts each day, then I should be.. where I am supposed to be. That’s it. My eye openner. That I am where I am supposed to be. Since that was revealed to me, I have become, strangely (for me) calm and at peace. Which isnt making sense to me. Calm & peaceful is always where I want to be, but, generally I am not a calm person. I am usually described as hyperactive.

And as I look at the world swirling around me, I just can’t imagine being calm. So, now, I am wondering is this simply an “ignorance is bliss” kind of a moment. Or
am I on the path of the Lord, with the Lord’s Grace, and therefore am right where I am supposed to be? Not sure if this is actually a question. Just thought I’d put this out there.

2 Jason

I wouldn’t second guess your peace. I think that the Lord gives us that peace because I have tried to get it on my own and failed time and time again. Enjoy it, God is pouring out His love on you and trust that you are putting your focus on Jesus.

3 Michael

Amen, Jason, I myself am faced with pending divorce and during such a horrible place in my life, I have turned all of it over to the Lord and in return a peace that passes all understanding has come over me….Before that moment I was struggling to fix everything and convince my wife to change her mind. The more I tried to fix things myself the worse I felt. But when I turned it all over to the Lord an unbelievable burden was lifted off of me. One that can only be handled by GOD himself. A peace like that, during a time like this (divorce) can only come from God, Clarie!!!

4 Jason

When you mentioned the back and forth battle of fix, convince (for me it was beg), and just making things worse I had a flash back; it is so TRUE. Letting it all go is freeing!

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