I’ve been married for 17 years – I’ve made mistakes I understand that. I’ve also forgiven a lot – an affair 2 years into our marriage. We were young – but Christians and I believed it was forever after.
A month ago my husband started seeing another woman. Two weeks ago he moved out of the house into an apartment. I’m now struggling with dealing with the hurt and anger (towards him, myself and God) and trying to be supportive of my 13 & 15 year old daughters.
Right now we’re exchanging the girls every other week – this is my first week without them. He has become very distant towards them and I struggle with if they should be there at all in the self destructive behavior he’s doing.
I’m so lost right now and don’t have a support system – we’re surrounded by his family here and mine are far away. I’ve joined a church and am trying to make friends but this is a lot to put on someone you just met.
I love my husband, and I know that if we deal with our past demons we can have an amazing relationship…but I can’t make him do anything/feel anything/do anything and I struggle with that.
Any/all advice, prayers, insight appreciated.
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Dear Christine, I came back to this web site after finding it myself last evening and posting a prayer request for myself. I could not help but to identify with the pain, loss, confusion and hurt you are experiencing and how it so acurately comes through in your writing. I will pray for you and the struggles you face. I will ask God who is the essence of love to bring you a kind of comfort that only He can bring, I’m still struggling to find that comfort myself, but know that when we give out of our need some times that causes the heart of God to move in our lives. I understand the devastation you feel, i’m walking this path at the same time. I wish you God’s strength, Love, protection and provision in the difficult valley time you are in.
JC