My divorce was final in April. My husband of 15 hrs began an affair that he would not end and I filed for divorce. His girlfriend is living with him in the house we used to share. I had tom give up the house to minimize my spousal support payment to him. Yes, I’m a female paying alimony..not the norm. He is living with her to get the money from me…if he marries her he loses the alimony. So I have to send our two boys (13 and 14) to him and the girlfriend every other weekend. Those weekends are agonizing for me. They are good Christian boys who love their father but cannot reconcile what they know to be right in God’s eyes to what their father has done and continues to do and flaunt. He even goes to men’s Bible study at our church every week acting like he’s this wonderful guy. We go to a mega church so no one there knows what he is up to. This is a jumble, but my boys and I do need prayer.
The boys need peace and wisdom. I need to find a way to forgive.
Thanks and God bless.
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Julie, forgiveness is hard especially when what you mentioned is going on. May God protect your children and grant them great wisdom in dealing with their father. Unfortunately over time your ex has let the enemy plant new thoughts that affected his character. There is no doubt that he is going down a path that will lead to great pain. He may be fooling the people at church but he isn’t fooling God and he will feel the consequences. All I can really suggest is in those times between wanting to kick your ex in the teeth that you try and view him as God does. God loves him and wants so much more for him and currenlty he is being deceived by satan. Give it some time, things are still very fresh, they will get better.