Submitted by Tim
My wife of 17 years moved out 2 months ago and wants a divorce. She tells me she no longer loves, she made a mistake marrying me, and she can do better in a husband. We have 2 kids ages 11 & 9. I made mistakes, hid financial issues from her, and was in a depression for a couple of years and did not realize it. I have since come out of the depression and made several positive changes in my life, which my wife can not see or refuses to acknowledge. She completely ignores me like we never were together. She has also distanced herself from all of our friends and also our church. She has said that she is going to start seeing a Christian counselor but, as she puts its, “it doesn’t mean we are getting back together again.” Won’t a Christian counselor try to explore the possibility of reconciliation??
I made mistakes, especially over the last 6 to 9 months or our marriage, but I am working on fixing myself and have seen some success. I tell her I can not fix the past but I can fix the future if she lets me. Still she says she does not want to try and work anything out, she has moved on already and can’t stand the sight of me. Now God spoke to me just as she was leaving for me to fix myself first, and I have been doing that.
Am I holding out false hope of getting back together or should I move on?. If I anything I have done and said too much to her to try and get us to work it out. I plan on leaving her alone and hope that her counseling will see that it was not just me in the problems in our marriage and that maybe there is a chance that we can work. Or am I just to blind to see the obvious?