When we decide to engage in making changes in our lives towards obtaining wellness, it means we are aware of and actively working towards better health. This isn’t simply speaking about physical health or spiritual health but much more.
Divorce is devastating, and afterward, you have many choices. You can live in denial or anger, rush into a new relationship, you can live in self-pity and sadness, you can numb the pain with alcohol, or you can fix the problems that caused the divorce in the first place. Many may think, “But it was he/she who caused the divorce (for one reason or another)” but the God’s honest truth is things have been messed up for some time, and you are part of it. Whether you feel like a victim or not you can and need to strive for complete balance and wellness.
Wellness typically covers 5 areas of life:
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Spiritual Wellness – As Christians, I think it is essential that we have a healthy understanding of who God is. He is a God of love and grace! We should strive to learn about Him and walk in the Spirit. How you spend time with God is up to you, but it should be a priority. Reading the bible, going to church, prayer, and regular fellowship is important, but it doesn’t have to be ritualistic.
Physical Wellness – When we are physically active, eat right, and maintain a healthy weight we live longer, have more energy, and feel good about ourselves. With divorce, comes stress, anxiety, depression, and anger – physical wellness helps alleviate these symptoms. I know what it is like to gain weight after divorce only to hear someone tell me I was getting fat. I did not even really notice it until my eyes were opened. I loved the Burn the Fat Feed the Muscle program because it was a lifestyle change, not a quick fix or fad diet. They just don’t work! I lost 20 pounds and am in the best shape I have ever been – best $40 I ever spent on my physical wellness.
Emotional Wellness – With life comes crisis (obviously) and we have certain ways of dealing with situations, work, and other people in our lives. These aren’t always healthy ways either but the more emotionally whole we are, the better we will deal with life and the more fulfilling our friendships will be. Emotional wellness has to do with finding the “silver lining” in life, managing our feelings in a healthy way, adjusting to change, and finding ways to enjoy life. Emotional Wellness: A biblical recourse to mental and emotional well-being.
Social Wellness – No matter who we are and whether we like to be around people or not we need some social interaction. Some people require lots of it while others not so much but there is a balance and this includes keeping in touch with family, friends, and even getting involved in the community.
Intellectual Wellness – Sometimes we think that learning stops when we get out of college but the fact is, we are always learning, and it is important to exercise our minds. Read a “How To” book now and then or take a cooking class (kill two birds with one stone, social and intellectual). There are lots of fun things you can do to exercise your mind and keep it sharp.
I have been actively striving to find the balance between these 5 areas of my life, and at times I start letting one area slip and guess what – it affects the other areas. I wish there were a magic formula but much of life and wellness is about trial and error until you find the right mix. You will be so amazed at how good you feel, how you deal with situations, and the new improved you. Not only will it help you to heal but to get on with your life. It is worth pursuing!