Adultery Leads to Divorce

by Jason Deines

in Questions & Answers

Submitted by Becky
My (Christian?) husband was caught in adultery with a married woman. He’s sorry he got caught. He knows its a sin. But there has been no sign of repentance. He still calls her and has met with her. Always, justifing his actions.
I have gone to see a lawyer and at the moment I’ve put the divorce on hold, my husband says he loves me and wants to make the marriage work. I dont’ trust him. He knows he needs to move out of the house. He’s dragging his feet.
What advice do you have that is in line with the word of God. Can I divorce this man, or do we just seperate in hopes of reconcilliation?
I love the Lord and I want to bring honor to Him because of what He has done for me!


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1 Jason

There are grounds for divorce such as Matthew 5:32

But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.

I believe that God allows for the marriage to be ended because of the damage that infedelity does to a marriage. How can you be with a person that you no longer can trust? That is even worse when they don’t repent and turn from their sin. When people do that then there is hope. Remorse for getting caught, in any sin, usually leads to finding more secretative ways of sinning. Ultimately God sees all and judges all. Your husband can’t be working on the marriage while still talking to the other woman. True repentence would involve never seeing or talking to her again. It would be cut from his life. In my opinion I would kick him to the curb and see if he truly repents or if it is lip service. The fact that you refer to him as “this man” makes me think that you have lost all respect for him, rightly so, and you need to ask yourself if you can accept what he has done? If you can forgive him and both of you move on in a loving way building on your marriage then I would try and work things out. Sorry I probably rambled on a bit and said to much. I am sure there are many out there that have seen their marriages recover from adultery but not mine so I am onesided.

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