When Madalyn was 5 she would continue to ask me why she could not be with mom and dad the same amount of time. And to be honest, I found it extremely difficult to explain to her the reasoning. The truth is more than what she could handle, and most certainly the last thing I would want to tell her and to lie also is difficult. As I would explain the best that I could my daughter would go into “problem-solving” mode and start to offer solutions (it was cute but not realistic).
I was amazed at how much she wanted to see things work out. No matter what the children do suffer because of divorce and they get caught in the middle. Many times they feel responsible, and this is not acceptable. Here are a few postcards sent by kids that struggle with divorce. Credit goes to Post Cards from Splitsville. No matter how poorly you are feeling right now because of divorce, your children need you to be there for them!