With the divorce rate what it is, 50 percent or more, whether you call yourself Christian or not it is obvious that our society is changing. Just because half of all marriages fail doesn’t mean the other half is “happily” married. I am sure that there is a huge percentage out there that people stick it out for one reason or another even though their marriage is in trouble. Well, that is what this post is for. We need to find a way to either save or improve our relationship without spouse (if it isn’t already too late).
10 Irritants that Need to be Eliminated in a Marriage
- Stop Criticizing Your Spouse – There is simply no need to criticize your spouse in public or private for that matter.
- Don’t Make Your Spouse Feel Inferior – Carefully avoid actions or situations that might make your spouse feel inferior or leads to failure. If your spouse doesn’t like to play softball, then don’t insist on it. Don’t throw your mate into awkward situations where they are going to feel uncomfortable. Obviously, this may happen from time to time by accident, but you should know your mate well enough to understand if what you are asking them to do will make them feel inferior. Lastly, don’t demonstrate your own superiority over him/her.
- Eliminate Annoying Topics – If your spouse doesn’t like discussing politics then don’t bother them with it. Don’t needlessly bring up occasions when your spouse made a fool of himself (notice I said himself).
- Replace Things in the Home that Need It – I know this is an odd one but if the work around the home is causing undue pain, labor, and irritation because something is not working right it needs to be taken care of. Fix that leaky faucet, replace your broken dishwasher, throw out the torn rug, etc. Stop putting these things off because they do get in the way of relationships.
- Be on Time – If you have an appointment to meet up with your spouse then be on time, however (here is the kicker) do not demand that your mate do likewise.
- Don’t Read at the Dinner Table – Actually reading at the dinner table is okay IF you both agree to it and both have something to read.
- Minimize Contact with Relatives – Bring your spouse into contact with your relatives so infrequently and under such favorable conditions that their liking for each other will flourish rather than perish.
- Don’t Flirt – We have seen it before when a spouse flirts with someone else to try and keep their partner interested. You are just looking for big trouble.
- Don’t Put Off Sex in a Negative Manner – Never deny your spouse’s sexual advances in a way which will seem unloving, contemptuous, or irritated. If you cannot respond fully at the moment, ensure that you express unmistakably your respect, your affection, and your comradeship, and make it clear that the necessary sexual denial is not rejection but a postponement.
- Don’t Violate Your Spouses Ideals – Watch to see whether you are needlessly violating your spouse’s ideals of courtesy, decency, good sportsmanship, generosity, or honor. If you then stop it!
Now is the time for a reality check. Are you doing any of these things? Honesty can save your marriage; denial will likely end it.