Eating Alone after Divorce

Eating Alone after Divorce

by Jason Deines

in Featured, Tips for Coping with Divorce

There are so many things that a person has to get used to after going through a divorce and for some the simple task of eating alone can be one of them. There are probably a lot of people out there that know very little about cooking and can’t stand the taste of their own food while others are fantastic cooks but hate to eat alone. Whichever it is, with a little practice and patience you can and will overcome.

Eating alone after divorce requires a person to feel comfortable with themselves and the fact that they are alone. This can be eating at home or in public. As each day passes we become more and more independent and things begin to get easier, however, it can be uncomfortable at times. The key thing to remember is that it takes time.

If you struggle with eating alone at home I would recommend that you learn to cook. If you already know how to cook you should try something new. Either way go out and buy yourself a new cookbook and try new things. Some of my favorites are by Martha Stewart; her recipes are simple and the ingredients are easy to find; you don’t have to bounce around to specialty stores looking for ingredients to meals you don’t know how to pronounce.

In fact, my daughter and I enjoy watching cooking shows together (she is 6) and I thought it would be fun for us to cook together but it is hard to get the recipe right when watching it on TV so I bought a Martha Stewart DVD and we watch it in the kitchen while making dinner. Of course this works best on the weekends. It is fun to cook and there is a lot going on after divorce so you want to be as healthy as you can and eating right will help you feel better.

Here are a couple cookbooks you may enjoy:

Martha Stewart’s Cooking School: Lessons and Recipes for the Home Cook

Martha Stewart’s Dinner at Home: 52 Quick Meals to Cook for Family and Friends

Eating in Public Alone

So there may be some of you that enjoy a favorite restaurant and you feel awkward eating alone so I thought I would give you some tips on overcoming this fear. For starters, many people feel weird about eating alone in public but the reality is; it isn’t a really big deal. Being able to eat alone in public shows that you feel good about who you are and have a healthy self-esteem. If you feel the urge to hit one of your favorite hot-spots for dinner don’t blow it off just because your partner isn’t with you anymore. Dress up, slap a smile on your face, and head out the door. People will see you as being confident so don’t worry about what they think. Depending on the place it can be a bit boring sitting by yourself unless you can do some people watching but I like to take my Kindle Wireless Reading Device and read a bit while waiting for dinner. Heck, I remember one time taking my daughter and we played a game of Chutes and Ladders while waiting for dinner. Go out and have some fun!


{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Kat

I stared with a coffee shop. I was nice sitting with a good book and a nice cup of coffee.

2 Father_of_2

A coffee shop sounds like a great place to start finding quiet time, but not too quiet because there are people moving about. This is a lot different environment than a house that is empty and bare in many of the rooms. I go in coffee shops frequently but I never thought of it as a place to recooperate! :) Thanks for the idea Kat!!

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