Time and time again you see marriages end because one person says they don’t love their spouse anymore. Since when did loving one’s spouse become an option? Do we wake up one day and decide today is the day we stop loving them, no it happens over time with failed communication, selfish desires, and false expectations.
What about our children – when they get minds of their own and rebel do we simply walk away? No, we love them until the bitter end or to sweet victory.
This concept that “love” is a feeling needs to be put to rest. Love is not a feeling; it is something that is done on purpose and by choice. It might not be returned as you would like but that still doesn’t change the fact that it is up to you on how you show your love and even receive it. When you show someone you love them you put them first and expect nothing in return. Over time it is only natural to receive love. I know this is all easier said than done with all the influences around us but I think it is when we allow an unhealthy balance between the world and God that we lose the perspective of what love is.
As Christians, we are fortunate to know a loving God, and thankfully He will never stop loving us – just like with our spouses He will always love them. When we choose to stop loving our spouse we are not aligned with God’s will; acting out in selfishness and the illusion that there are “greener pastures” on the other side of the hill. Even if we weren’t the ones to walk away, it is still important to ask for God’s love to flow through us to show our ex that we are better than them… (did I say that?) We need to get past the anger, bitterness, and resentment and the best way to do that is with the love of God.
I know that most of you are reading this weren’t the ones that walked away; many of you heard these words come from your partner as your heart shattered; helpless to change their minds. You may never know the answer to why and how this has happened but having the answer rarely makes things easier to accept. What you do need to accept is that “it is what it is” and there is a good future for you if you learn to grasp the concept of love.