Should I File for Divorce

by Jason Deines

in Questions & Answers

Submitted by Gloria

My husband moved out about 4 months ago. He does not want to work on the marriage. I am a little confused about what to do now. I do read your emails and they have helped me. I have been praying about it, but not sure how long I should wait. Should I just file for divorce since he wants nothing to do with me anymore.

Thank you,


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1 Jason

Hi Gloria, Here is my take on the situation… Four months is relatively a short period of time and a lot can still happen. I would not worry so much about filing for divorce rather than getting on with your life, your relationship with God, and healing. I don’t know if things will work out and I do understand about closure. If he has abandonded you then I would talk to a pastor and see if that is grounds for divorce. It is hard for me to give this kind of advice because I know how hard it is. There is a part of me that would just want to get it all taken care of and have closure. But then there is the part of me that would want to wait and see what God may do, hold on to hope a bit longer. I guess I refer back to the beginning of my answer and recommend working on yourself, healing and not worrying about the paperwork just yet.

2 kat

I know that it’s hard. I’m praying. I will tell you that I would watch the money. You may not need to but I would start keeping an eye on it. Plus I would close the credit cards out. You can always get another if need be. Take care of yourself in this without slamming a door.

3 Alex

Never give up on you marriage! I’m not an expert, but I am learning, this may very well be the greatest thing to happen to you. This is an opportunity to put your faith in God for everything. This is an opportunity to walk by faith and not by sight, you will grow as a Christian in ways you never thought possible. Trust that God has a plan, and he hates divorce so why would you go that way.

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