There is not getting around the fact that there will be grief in your life. We encounter grief for all kinds of reasons; our pet runs away, the death of a loved one, loss of a job, illness, having to move away from family and friends, and divorce.
Grief is a normal response when faced with loss. When it comes to divorce the loss is substantial and we respond with sorrow, emotion, and confusion. This is all natural and is a part of life.
The best help for grief is to understand it; to face it head on and not deny how you feel. Sometimes we try to resist the feelings and push them away or minimize how we feel by saying that, “it isn’t that big a deal” or repress them until one day we explode. All of these are ways to deal with grief but they are unhealthy and can cause more harm than good.
Grief is part of life and we can’t deny it and we can’t become cold and hard hearted. Nor do we want to beat ourselves up over and over again for our imperfections and failures. Life is a learning process and grief is simply a tool to help us do so.
Matthew 5:4: “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.”
You need to handle your feelings of grief by understanding life isn’t always a bed of roses and you are not broken. You may be a little cracked here and there but you can be fixed. Reach out to God and tell Him what you feel; it doesn’t have to be pretty; He can handle it even if it is muffled out by sorrow and tears. Instead of turning away from God turn to Him for strength in healing. Help for grief is right there in front of you; reach out and grab it. Don’t forget to talk to friends and family or vent on this website. Just get it out there – Release it!
How Long Does Grief Last
The length of time spent grieving is different for each person. It could be a few months to several years depending on how long it takes you to accept and learn to live with being divorced. I know… not very specific is it?
You will know that you are done grieving when you are able to accept the divorce, you have been able to work through the physical and emotional pain of grief, you have adjusted to living without your ex, and you are able to move on with your life.
Read more on the Dealing with Grief and the 5 Stages of the Grief Model