As I mentioned in the post Help for Grief, grief is a natural response to divorce but it should not last forever, and it should not control your life.
What is Grief
The definition of grief is this – Grief is the normal response to sorrow, emotion, and confusion that comes from losing someone or something important to you. Grief is typical of a person that has lost a loved one, lost a job, or gone through a divorce.
There is no doubt that you will feel depressed and grief when going through a divorce. You will feel empty and numb as if you are in shock. You will likely have a physical reaction to the grief such as; trouble sleeping, lack of appetite, dry mouth, trembling, muscle weakness, trouble breathing, and nausea. The whole situation and subsequent ones may make you angry. You might even feel anger towards your ex, yourself or just be angry. Almost everyone in grief will also experience guilt, which is often expressed as “I could have, I should have, and I wish I would have” statements.
You may also experience other signs of grief such as having strange dreams and nightmares, be absent-minded, withdraw socially, or lack the desire to get back to work. Remember that these feelings are all normal and they should pass.
When it comes to depression, it is more of a physical disorder and can take over the way you think and feel. If the feelings of grief have lasted a long time and you continue to feel sad, anxious or empty, you may be depressed. Other signs of depression include; loss of interest in what you used to enjoy, fatigue, trouble concentrating, feeling hopeless, feeling worthless, thoughts of death or suicide. Obviously, these can all easily fit in with the feelings of grief, but you should be able to tell the difference; if this feeling persists without lifting, you should consider asking for help.
There are many ways to deal with grief and depression from getting physically active, cognitive behavioral therapy, counseling, naturally changing your eating habits, and prescription drugs. The point is not to let depression control your life, and this is no way to live. Don’t be scared to get help and start feeling good again.