Many of us have parents, grandparents, and other relatives that it isn’t uncommon to hear about their 25, 35, and even 50 year anniversaries. It seems that it wasn’t very long ago that couples knew something we don’t know today.
It is obvious, times are a changing and with change comes the good and the bad, cause and effect, and uncertainty of the future. The driving force of family change is thus; Couples marry and stay married when the gains from marriage exceed the gains from being single. Statistics back this up with high rates of divorce in the U.S. In fact, 43 percent agree that “divorce is usually the best solution when a couple can’t seem to work out their marriage options.”
It is very likely that the main driving force behind divorce is the fact that divorce is easy to get these days. In the past, there had to be proof of infidelity, abuse, abandonment or some other major criteria. These days all you need is enough money to file the paperwork and list “irreconcilable differences.”
The changing roles of men and women play a part in divorce as well. Women are interested in pursuing careers and depend on less upon their spouse for the support thus making it more appealing to break out on their own. Women today are more likely to be independent – with fewer children, a good education, and a job.
People’s attitudes about marriage are different than they were in the past or they are misguided. Young adults these days may perceive marriage to be romance and happiness based on what they’ve seen through the media. I know I fell in love with the idea of marriage not knowing what it truly looked like.
With a constantly changing world and the growing need for instant gratification could it be people are getting married too quickly, too young, or to an illusion or idea? Are there sufficient role models these days to portray what marriage is supposed to be like and the work it takes to make a relationship work? We are surrounded by what the media tells us, in fact, we are bombarded with various forms of media each and every day that tells us what we should look like, wear, drive, eat, drink, and how we should live. Is it possible that our beliefs, loyalty, and values are being warped by the media (Okay, that is obvious)?
Sometimes I wonder if there is anything we can do. With divorce being the way it is I fear for the children of this generation. Hoping that they will have a chance to grow up understanding what it means to be loved and to love.
Divorce isn’t the end of the world but it sure does feel like it sometimes, and I know that God had something different in mind when it came to marriage. He wanted us to be with that person which He destined us to be with. Granted, it isn’t always easy, but it is those things that we work for that tend to be the most rewarding.
Source: Marriage and Divorce: Changes and their Driving Forces