Acceptance is a huge step when it comes to divorce; acceptance is a person’s agreement to experience a situation, to follow a process or condition (often a negative or uncomfortable situation) without attempting to change it, protest, or exit.
Another way to look at acceptance is simply a response to anything occurring at any moment of life as “it is what it is.”
Acceptance of divorce usually takes time to come to terms with but it should come and with it, things usually get better, the stress lessens, forgiveness is granted, and life resumes. There are so many things outside our control, and the only way to overcome them is to accept them. When we try to control everything around us we utterly fail and become miserable. It is when we let go and let God that things start to happen for us; we begin to accept the divorce or anything else for that matter.
Faith is a powerful tool when it comes to acceptance – when we realize that God has our lives, future, and well-being in His hands we can relax and not worry quite as much. If you are struggling with acceptance, remember that you can’t control most of what life throws your way, but you can learn, grow and overcome any obstacle no matter how tough it may seem. Find things to be thankful for and have faith that God has a plan for you and your life.
You have most likely heard of the Serenity Prayer. It is a great and powerful prayer. Most everyone knows the first part, but I am going to share, what I think, is the whole thing. Pray it and meditate on it!
Serenity Prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr
God, give us the grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, Courage to change the things which should be changed, and the Wisdom to distinguish the one from the other.
Living one day at a time, Enjoying one moment at a time, Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace, Taking, as Jesus did, This sinful world as it is, Not as I would have it, Trusting that You will make all things right, If I surrender to Your will, So that I may be reasonably happy in this life, And supremely happy with You forever in the next.