The bible teaches us not to covet what other’s have, to not have any other gods, or make ourselves idols that are from heaven above or earth beneath. Let me be the first to raise my hand when I ask how many of us are guilty of the pursuit of happiness through possessions?
If we measure life by the things we have accumulated, then we are putting those things before God. In essence, we have other gods and idols. We live in a nation where we are mass consumers, and instant gratification seems to be the norm; so what happens when disaster strikes and we lose everything we have worked so hard to obtain?
I’ve compared divorce with disaster before because both are devastating and redefine life as we know it. Both make us re-evaluate our lives, beliefs, and even our faith. There are so many uncertainties in life and if you build your life around them then someday you may find it crumbling to the ground. The greatest things in life aren’t “things” they are relationships, especially your relationship with God. You can never lose the love of God, and it is the love of God that will get you through the toughest times of your life.
I know many people have questions when faced with divorce. Their lifestyles are drastically changing; incomes are being split in half, possessions divided, workload doubles, and the questions far outweigh the answers, but that doesn’t mean things won’t get better, that you won’t get stronger. I know many people, including myself, during the divorce process I found myself closer to God; changing the way I measured my life. No longer was I determined to have the big house, fancy car, and tons of useless possessions. I just wanted to be loved and to love, and I know that God provides this. Often when we take our eyes off the things of the world and put them on God, we have a significant awakening. Unfortunately, it can take a disaster or major life-changing event for that to happen.
Spend some time thinking about what matters most to you and invest your time in those things (as long as their not “things”). Investing in your relationship with God, friends, family and the community tend to have the biggest payback.