For those of you expecting, anticipating and counting the days for when life will be normal again I have bad news for you – the “normal” life as you once knew it doesn’t exist any longer. Divorce uproots lives, turns them upside down and shakes them until they seem to be unrecognizable.
While you are adjusting to your new found chaos, it is helpful to try and stay positive. Things that were once simple can now seem to be overwhelming, but as you learn to manage all the daily tasks of life on your own, it will become easier.
There may be things you don’t know how to do or interests you wish to pursue; this is a great time to start exploring them. Things such as; cooking, money management, jogging, photography, dance, painting, pottery or maybe taking a college course, there are some things you can do. Reconnect with the things that you enjoyed doing apart from your partner.
Friends and family are an excellent source of help as well. Remember, you don’t have to go at it alone! Talking with people that care for you and that listen two what you have to say will help you feel better. If you isolate yourself and worry about all the changes, you are only going to stress yourself out and feel worse.
It isn’t always easy to think positively, especially if you and your ex-continue to have a lot of conflict. But as you work on building new friendships, exploring interests and letting go of the past it will help you move on with your life. Returning to a normal life is what you make it out to be. Eventually, you will feel good again and learn to manage things on your own.
Old routines will eventually be replaced with new ones, you will pursue new interests, daily chores will be managed on your own, and you will eventually have stability and a new definition of normalcy.