One of the last places a person wants to be after hearing about their partner wanting to separate or divorce is at work. As much as we wish we could, most of us can’t turn on and off our emotions to concentrate on the task at hand.
It is important to understand that divorce is often compared to losing a loved one when it comes to grieving. Would you go to work the next day? Probably not, I know I had to take a couple of days off, not only to deal with the sick feeling inside of me but because I was exhausted from lack of sleep and not eating.
When I was able to get back to work, I first had to sit down and discuss with my boss what was going on because people will notice the change and you need someone on your side when you exhibit signs of frustration with co-workers.
Breaks are important to stay focused on the job and to relieve stress. If you can, get outside and walk around the block a couple of times and think about other things than work and your relationship. Don’t use it as a time to stew over the divorce and get mad.
Keep your strength up by eating, healthy eating. Don’t drown your sorrows with maple bars (my favorite) and other tempting morsels. I am a strong believer that when you experience, both physical and mental, pain that your body automatically tries to heal itself and combat the negative effects and this is better done with healthy nourishing foods.
God created us as a community so if others want to help you, let them. Not only does it bless them but it blesses you. Many understand the pain you are going through and may want to help you with your workload. It helps get your job done and relieves some of the stress.
You are going to have good days and bad days depending on what is going on so plan accordingly. Having to go to work the same day or even the next day after divorce court or mediation may not be the best decision -plan accordingly. We all have different temperaments and thresholds for what we can handle, and I prefer to err on the side of caution versus snapping at the Vice President of Sales and then having to look for a job on top of everything else.