If I were to venture to guess I would say we have all been discouraged at some point. After a divorce, there are many opportunities to become discouraged and the likelihood of it happening is high.
There are several triggers that can cause you to get discouraged after divorce; fear, frustration, exhaustion, and failure.
Common Causes of Discouragement and How to Overcome
Fear of the unknown, fear of being judged, fear of not having enough money, fear of single parenting and fear of being alone can all lead you down the path of discouragement. Satan uses these kinds of fears to drive a wedge between us and God’s will. Living in fear prevents us from reaching our full potential and sucks the joy from our lives. Instead of fearing these things; live in faith and learn about things you don’t know or understand. You can learn how to be a single parent; you can return to school to prepare yourself for a better career, remind yourself that the future is always unknown and who cares what others think of you. We have all fallen short in the eyes of God, He is our judge, and He loves us.
The feeling of frustration doesn’t even come close to describe how you may feel after a divorce. Dealing with your ex maybe difficult, chores pile up as more and more needs to be accomplished, single parenting can be stressful, and loneliness can all be very frustrating. The best thing you can do for yourself is to get organized, get rid of the stuff that is cluttering up your life and not producing positive results. Manage your stress and practice deep breathing. Let go of the things you have no control over and if necessary completely reorganize your life. Trust that God will provide and work towards the things you care most about.
Study after study shows how important sleep is to the human body. Without it, we are pretty useless, and health becomes an issue. You need to take time out for yourself – shoot for a minimum of 20 minutes each day to just relax; get away from distractions, demands and anything else that requires your attention. Read, meditate, take a warm bath/shower, try aromatherapy or just lay back and close your eyes for a few minutes.
We can all honestly say that we have failed at some point in our lives and it is the failures we didn’t learn from that continue to creep up and haunt us. So learn from your mistakes, don’t beat yourself up and forgive (yourself and your ex).
Life has its challenges, and sometimes you can get stuck in a rut, but we don’t have to live there. Discouragements come and go, and it is up to us whether or not we choose to remain in that state. Don’t forget to check out these bible verses on dealing with discouragement.