How Do I Cope

by Jason Deines

in Questions & Answers

Submitted by Loredana

My husband and I married in the church full of faith and love, been together 16 years, married 10. 2 years ago he met someone and began a relationship with her. He says that he tried to tell me that things needed to get better and tried to stay in marriage but we never made it to counseling. He just moved on without telling me living lies for years. Now we are divorced as of last month. I feel like I am in a nightmare. He now brings my daughter around this other woman and it kills me. Because she knew. They go to church together how do I cope with this.


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1 Jason

The only way to cope is to accept things as they are. It may suck but we have no control over it. We ask God to help us change the things we can and accept the things we can’t. We forgive and we get on with our lives in the pursuit of happiness. It takes time – often more than we want to give it but hang in there, be a loving mom and things will get better. If your daughter knew about the situation she may have been scared to hurt your feelings by telling you or she didn’t want to upset her father (or both). She can’t be held responsible, if anything she must of felt quite conflicted and never put in that position.

2 Cassie

Hi Loredana, Jason is correct…I just wanted to take a moment to say to you that you will make it. I know right now it looks like you won’t, but you will. And know that your not alone. There are so many people in this world, right where you are, right now. If there is any way possible to get into a Divorce Recovery Program, do it. If you can’t get some workbooks online. The Dollar store has a book that really helped me, “Managing Your Moods”. I just took each mood and applied it to my divorce. Good Luck and I will be praying for you. Don’t forget, God loves you =)

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