Fighting Parental Alienation

Fighting Parental Alienation

by Jason Deines

in Child Custody and CoParenting, Featured

Over the years we have seen family dynamics changing; fathers are taking a more active role in raising the children as mothers are pursuing careers. Unfortunately, many families are broken up due to divorce and if couples aren’t able to put their differences aside for the sake of the children it can result in the children being turned against the other parent, parental alienation.

What is Parental Alienation Syndrome?

In simple terms PAS is a social dynamic, generally occurring due to divorce or separation, when a child expresses unjustified hatred or unreasonably strong dislike of one parent, making access by the rejected parent difficult or impossible. These feelings may be influenced by negative comments by the other parent and by the characteristics, such as lack of empathy and warmth, of the rejected parent. Parental alienation is controversial in legal and mental health professions, both generally and in specific situations.

Thousands of children suffer from parental alienation because one parent’s hatred or vengeance against the other. Fighting parental alienation is about protecting the child, however it can be very difficult unless both parents agree to put an end to the bitterness.

One of the most important things you can do to fight parental alienation is to educate yourself, don’t passively sit back while your child is being brainwashed to hate you. The Custody Library has resources that can help you. Often times the only way to stop what is being done is with a judicial court order which contains the disturbed parent. You need to get custody of your children and assure them that you love them. If you don’t fight it you may lose your children and they may hate you for the lies they are being told.


{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Jane Lambert

This is a very difficult issue to address as a parent. My husband and I have experienced this first-hand due to the lies his ex-wife told to his children. It is difficult to find the balance between exposing the lies as lies and doing so in a way that it isn’t as defenseness by your children and sound like you are calling their other parent out which only puts the kids in the middle. Fortunately for us, we weathered the storm until the judge realized that this was parental alienation after we managed to get him to require counselling for the children. We asked him to choose a counsellor he trusted (we really didn’t know any in that area since we live out of state) who diagnosed parental alienation. After that happened, the judge put his foot down on the children’s mother and after a while, the relationship with his children was able to be re-built. Sadly, we missed about 5 years of their growing up because we weren’t allowed to be a part of their lives during that time.

Parental Alienation is nothing but brain-washing and is a travesty! Thank God for upright judges!

2 Jason

From what I was reading I could not believe it. First I thought it was just one parent bad mouthing the other telling the children things they should not hear but it is really brainwashing. The children are constantly exposed to the lies and will eventually beleive them, especially if the child goes long periods of time without seeing the other parent. It is such mess and I pray for these kids!

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