When a person has low self-esteem, they don’t feel good about themselves and find it difficult to be proud of the things they do. Overcoming low self-esteem is important because it helps you to be a positive person, deal better with stress and boost your drive to work and play. People with a good self-esteem are more apt to try new things, laugh at their mistakes, communicate effectively and enjoy life more.
Failed relationships, divorce, marital conflict and trouble at work can all play into developing a low self-esteem, especially if you value yourself based on what others think and say about you. Often, our self-esteem is affected when we are young; we may be bullied, ridiculed or told we are stupid. Without the proper resources to counteract this, we begin to agree and feel we are less of a person. Our feelings, thoughts, and beliefs are not valid, and we require others to make us feel good about ourselves. Fortunately overcoming low self-esteem is a learned process and anyone can do it.
Tips for Overcoming Low Self-Esteem
- Acceptance – Before you tackle any problem you first need to admit you have a problem. How is your self-esteem affecting your relationship with others and your life? Confront it and put into motion to change; create the desire to have a positive, healthy self-esteem.
- Ask for Help – Talking to a counselor, friend, pastor or teacher can help you come up with ways to overcome low self-esteem. There may be certain areas of your life you need to address that is the driving force behind the way you feel about yourself. If you can identify them, you can then begin to work on a solution.
- What are You Good At? – We are all good at something, maybe not great but good, so when you are feeling bad about yourself, just think, “I’m good at singing in the shower.”
- Try New Things – Step out of your comfort zone and try new things. If you try something new and fail, that’s okay. Everyone fails from time to time; it is what we learn and how we deal with the failure that matters. Keep trying!
- Volunteer – Self-esteem is about you so when you turn your energy on helping other people by volunteering in your community you are taking the focus off of you and putting it on someone or something else. Volunteering is a rewarding feeling and has many emotional, spiritual and physical benefits.
- Smile – It can’t be expressed enough that smiling is a great way to improve your mood and help you feel good about yourself.
Overcoming low self-esteem is a choice. However, many people don’t realize they are suffering. If you find that you are overly critical of yourself and others, have trouble forgiving, feelings of guilt and shame or need to blame others for problems in your life then you are likely suffering from low self-esteem. Please take the time and learn how good life can be when you take control and change how you feel about who you are.