Getting Help for Your Grief

Losing someone close to you whether it be divorce or death can lead to the same feelings such as; sadness, anger, loss, loneliness, and hopelessness. You probably even want them back, but you are powerless. This is all part of grieving, a normal reaction to losing someone you love.

There are several ways to grieve and to learn to accept the divorce. Try not to ignore your feelings and the grief you are feeling. If you feel overwhelmed, consumed or extremely depressed by the divorce, you should seek support at church, from family and friends, or a counselor.

Sometimes people find grief counseling makes it easier to deal with sorrow and loss. You can talk to them one-on-one, and regular talk therapy can assist you in getting over the pain of divorce and, in time, creating a new life. Another option is to find a support group at your church or in your community. There doesn’t seem to be an abundance of coping with divorce support groups, but they are out there.

When your emotions are running high, you should try to delay major life-changing decisions. Obviously, life as you knew it is changing and there will be some significant changes, but you don’t want to take on more if you can avoid it. If you have children, you need to consider their feelings and needs and focus on providing them a stable, secure and loving environment, and they too will be grieving.

Always remember to take good care of yourself. Grief has obvious effects on you emotionally, but it also affects you physically. If you don’t take care of yourself, you can end up sick. Eat well, exercise, get sleep and get back to doing things you used to enjoy. Accept offers of help or companionship from friends and family. It’s good for you and them.