Broken relationships lead to broken hearts and the fresher the breakup, the more hopeless the situation appears. It’s been said that time heals all wounds but some people let the hurts from their past build walls of bitterness and distrust, self-pity and poor self-esteem. They can perform their daily functions and find happiness from time to time but living a life like this is not true healing. Fortunately, you don’t have to live this way as there are things that you can do to heal a broken heart.
People often feel alone after a relationship falls apart. Clearly, the situation has changed, and the normalcies that you have grown accustomed too are gone, but remember, God is with you even if it doesn’t feel like it. He is aware of your pain, He cares and He desires to help you through the pain.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18
Healing a broken heart takes more than just knowing God is with you. You need to let go of the pain by changing your focus from what you lost to what you have. Too often we continue to focus on the past-making ourselves miserable and amplifying our grief. We hold on to our pain by pushing it down deep inside or playing painful situations over in our minds like a broken record or by becoming angry and bitter. You must learn to let the pain and transgressions go! It is water under the bridge, and you need to move on by changing your focus. It is a choice!
Rely on the resources that are available to everyone. There is the word of God, prayer, friends, support groups and the power of your mind. You don’t need anything out of the ordinary to heal a broken heart you just need to be strong, move on and use the resources that are all around you.
Broken relationships aren’t all bad if you deal with them in a healthy manner. They do provide lessons in life’s classroom. Broken hearts help us to grow and direct necessary changes in our lives to better ourselves and our lives. They bring us closer to God and others. They teach us things about ourselves and others and make us stronger and more compassionate.
The pain may not go away overnight, but if you begin to take practical steps to overcome it, you will soon be on your way to a happier and healthier life.