Dating over 40 can be a blast and very rewarding if you are willing to listen to some dating advice after divorce. Successful relationships will develop in your life if you know who you are, where you are going and love the person God made you to be. Just because you are over the age of 40 doesn’t mean you need to settle for the first person, or 10th person for that matter, who shows interest in you. Over the years we have learned that there is no Knight in Shining Armor or Perfect Woman. We have learned (at least we should have) that having unrealistic expectations in a partner will only lead to unmet expectations down the road.
The best dating advice after divorce that you can follow is to deal with the pain of divorce before you ever consider getting back into the dating game. When you do date don’t talk about past relationships; it only shows that you have a hard time letting go of the past and may not be ready to date. Make sure that you prepared to put yourself out there, emotionally and physically. Nobody wants to have to break down your walls or have to wait a month just to get to know you a little better.
You should never worry about hurting someone else’s feelings. I am not talking about being rude or putting a person down. Instead, I am referring to telling your date, “thanks but no thanks.” Not everyone is going to be a good match (some are downright crazy), and it is essential to be selective with the people you spend your time with. Leading a person on and playing games only to stroke your ego will end badly.
Even dating over the age of 40 requires that you make an excellent first impression. Our culture has changed significantly over the years and even though it may be the norm for teenagers not to hold doors open, practice good manners and text on a date it most certainly is not acceptable for you. Guys, woman want to have the door held for them. Ladies, stand back and give him room to hold the door. Use manners, be polite, be honest and have fun.
When dating, you aren’t going to hit it off with every person, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have fun. Two people can laugh and have a good time together knowing that they aren’t the perfect match. It is amazing what you can learn about yourself and others if you take the time to talk. As you get more comfortable with dating, it will get easier.
Don’t feel rushed to meet the “right” person just because you are over forty. It’s better to wait than to settle and end up going through a long and challenging relationship which could lead to divorce all over again. Finding a satisfying relationship takes time and work.