A New Year a New You

It’s that time of the year, AGAIN, where we either look back on our lives and wonder why things turned out the way they did, or we look forward and begin with a fresh start. If you went through a divorce this past year, or any other traumatic event, you have likely been told that time heals all wounds, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Do you want to know the secret to healing old wounds? It’s the Holy Spirit and letting go of the past! By holding onto the pain, it can hinder the work the Holy Spirit is trying to do. God wants to heal our broken hearts, our wounds from the past, but we need to allow Him to work from the inside out by letting go.

Psalm 34:18 – The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.

As humans we often wish life wasn’t full of obstacles, pain, and suffering but when was the last time any of us grew in character, values or conviction when we were prospering? Truth be told, we don’t do much growing in times of prosperity. For some reason, it isn’t until we are faced with trials and temptations that we grow and permit God to mold us more into the likeness of Jesus.

With the New Year approaching you may be thinking that there isn’t much to look forward to OR you may be thinking it is time for a new chapter in your life. This is the moment in time where you are going to take control of the things in your life which you have control and roll with the punches with everything else. Change usually doesn’t happen by itself; you have to take steps to move forward. Whether you are looking to get over a divorce, lose a few pounds, stop drinking, get a grip on your budget or considering dating after divorce you can follow the same basic steps to get where you want to be.

  1. Are You Ready? Are there things that are holding you back from moving forward? Do you have unforgiveness in your heart? Is your heart hardened? I know this sounds like a weird place to start, but you need to cut the cord to the past. You need to forgive others (and yourself), so you can focus on God’s vision.
  2. Accept You Are Human. Everyone makes mistakes, and you will make many more. Don’t let your mistakes keep you from pressing on. Every mistake is an opportunity to learn.
  3. Don’t Bite Off More Than You Can Chew. Set your goals and focus on small, short-term changes. Sometimes you get there faster by crawling rather than trying to sprint to the end and running off course. Slow and steady wins the race.
  4. Faith. Remember that God has a plan for you, but He isn’t going do everything for you. You have to step out in faith and test the waters occasionally to see if you are heading in the right direction.
  5. Seek Out Support. Never think you are alone in your journey and never let pride keep you from asking for help. We were placed on this earth to serve God and support one another as one body.
  6. Celebrate Your Successes. As you make progress in whatever goal you are trying to achieve you need to take time to acknowledge and celebrate what you have accomplished.
  7. Focus On The Benefits. A common cause of failure is focusing on the downside of your goals. Instead, focus on how your life will improve when you reach your goals.

Don’t spend another week, month or year merely crossing off the days on the calendar. Most of us with a few years under our belts have looked back and wondered where the time went and why we haven’t achieved the joy we’ve longed for because of simply existing. God had a vision for Abraham, Nehemiah, David, Paul, Peter (and the list goes on and on) and He has a vision for you. With the New Year upon us, why not take this opportunity to create a New You?