How to Make the Transition of Divorce Easier

How to Make the Transition of Divorce Easier

by Jason Deines

in Featured, Tips for Coping with Divorce

You’re probably telling yourself that it is impossible to transition from marriage to divorce easily and I would have to agree with you. However, many of us make things harder than they need to be. Here are 10 tips to make the transition easier.

  1. Remember, life is full of change. We’re either willing change with it or change when forced. There is no avoiding change.
  2. With every major life change there is always something gained and something lost. Instead of focusing on what you are losing look for the “silver lining”. Divorce doesn’t mean you have to spend the rest of your life with your head between your knees crying over what could have been. Look for future opportunities, many of which are opportunities for internal growth.
  3. Don’t ignore your feelings. You need to acknowledge them and work through them, with help if necessary. I don’t know how many times I told myself I did not care… lie.
  4. One of the best things I did was journal. Matter of fact that is what led to walkingthechristianlife.com. Be honest with yourself!
  5. In time, consider what your future has for you. Walk away from the past and move on to your new life. Joy and fulfillment don’t come from longing for what you have lost but what you gain.
  6. Get closure! Respectfully say what needs to be said but don’t expect anything in return. Write a letter if necessary.
  7. You will experience major changes after divorce so try and keep some constants for you and your children (if you have them).
  8. Begin to get excited about the new chapter ahead of you. Having one pity party after another won’t do you any good so look for the positive. Write down some goals that you look forward to accomplishing.
  9. Develop a sense of community by finding ways to fit in; volunteer, join a club or take an educational course.
  10. Be prayerful and remember that God has plans for you and His grace will keep you.

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1 Britton

Thank you for all of these articles. I have been trying to save my marriage for the past year and a half. I did everything I could possibly do including rebuilding a relationship with the Lord, addressing my wife’s concerns, focusing on improving myself and what I brought to the marriage, taking responsibility for my part and making the necessary changes to my behaviors and decisions, etc… My wife is filing divorce tomorrow and informed me that she never had any intention of trying to save our marriage. She simply wanted out because she did not ever want to deal with the possibility of being hurt again.
Your articles are a big help.

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