I’m certainly no stranger to mistakes. I made plenty when I was married to my first wife, and I continue to test the waters. When I slipup, which I do daily, there is no one harder on me than myself. It’s very easy for me to start asking the ‘what if’ question, “What if I would have done this instead of that?”
Obviously, it’s easy to look back and see how you could have handled the situation differently but living in a ‘what if’ world can rob you of having any hope for the future. It pollutes your mind and your relationships – What If, Kills HOPE!
I’m all for learning from mistakes and trying to avoid them in the future, but so often people get stuck in the past. My biggest hang-up is thinking about all the poor decisions I made when I was in high school and early twenties. OMG! If only I would have made different choices then maybe I could retire early or be the CEO of a multi-billion dollar company. The possibilities are endless. What if????
When I live in the world of ‘what if,’ I tend not to feel very good about myself. It drives my self-esteem right into the ground. God created us to have HOPE, and without hope in Christ, we would still be same sinful people we always were, with a one-way ticket to ‘H,’ ‘E’ double toothpicks. Until we live in a perfect world, we all need hope to be happy. What’s the point of living if you can’t have, or don’t have, hope that a better day will come?
So many people are miserable far too long after divorce because they have lost hope. They continue to live in the past, rehashing mistake after mistake. If you are one of these people then now is the time to take a step back! Forgive! And focus your attention on the here and now. Moving from the past to the present will restore your hope, allow you to heal, and enable you to grow closer to God and others.
Hope can be elusive sometimes, especially after suffering a loss. We wonder why God allowed bad things to happen or why He isn’t providing our needs the way we expect…I’ve been there. You don’t know God’s reasons, but maybe, just maybe, things happened exactly the way that they were meant to happen. Perhaps better things are waiting for you right around the corner. Don’t complicate today by beating yourself up over the elements of the past. It takes practice and effort, but you can move to the present. Your life will significantly improve once your hope is restored!