Am I a Failure?

When it comes to failure, our lives are full of examples. We typically learn from our mistakes and move on; often we fail several times before reaching a successful conclusion but with divorce that just doesn’t seem right. When a marriage fails, we can feel overwhelmed by thoughts and think that we failed our spouse, children, parents, God and ourselves. This can be a lot to live with and accept, but the thing to remember is you can’t take all the blame.

Divorce does not make you a failure nor does it make you a bad person. However, it does reveal areas in your life that need to be addressed. You should not dwell on your past mistakes but instead, use them as an opportunity to better yourself.

When we let ourselves fall into a state of self-pity and continuously beat ourselves up we aren’t much use to God; too much of this can lead to depression and poor self-worth. Also, consider what your children are learning from you during this time. What are they seeing? Are they learning healthy ways to deal with failure or are they learning about low self-esteem?

Encountering a major failure can take its toll, causing you to feel frustrated, anger and loss. It can be difficult to have faith in the things you once used too and hope is bleak. Nevertheless, you must put things into perspective, everyone can recover and rebuild life after divorce. The choices you make will define your future and the quality of your life. Sure, you fail from time to time – we all do, that is part of life, but the key to finding joy and happiness again is learning from your mistakes and taking the time for self-improvement.

Divorce doesn’t make you a failure, however not learning from past mistakes and doing something about them just might.

Isaiah 64:8

Yet, O LORD, you are our Father. We are the clay, you are the potter; we are all the work of your hand.

Consider These Quotes on Failure

My will shall shape the future. Whether I fail or succeed shall be no man’s doing but my own. I am the force; I can clear any obstacle before me or I can be lost in the maze. My choice; my responsibility; win or lose, only I hold the key to my destiny. Elaine Maxwell

A failure is a man who has blundered but is not capable of cashing in on the experience. Elbert Hubbard