Planning the Perfect Date

planning the perfect date

Some time ago dating normally started with a simple dinner and a movie. Dinner provided the opportunity for conversation while the movie helped the couple relax as their attention was directed at the big screen rather than each other. A traditional date like this serves a purpose but can trap you into an uncomfortable situation for an extended period if you don’t hit it off right away. Also, it doesn’t show a lot of originality since most everyone else is doing the same thing. Continue reading “Planning the Perfect Date”

Dating Advice after Divorce Over 40

Dating advice

Dating over 40 can be a blast and very rewarding if you are willing to listen to some dating advice after divorce. Successful relationships will develop in your life if you know who you are, where you are going and love the person God made you to be. Just because you are over the age of 40 doesn’t mean you need to settle for the first person, or 10th person for that matter, who shows interest in you. Over the years we have learned that there is no Knight in Shining Armor or Perfect Woman. We have learned (at least we should have) that having unrealistic expectations in a partner will only lead to unmet expectations down the road.
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Online Relationships

online relationships

Years ago the idea of developing online relationships had a stigma about it. However, online dating has grown in both popularity and acceptance. Today, nearly 1 out of 5 people have dated someone they met online (online relationships have gained so much traction it is now the third most popular way for meeting new people). As the amount of people who use online dating has increased, the dating pool has become more diverse and high-quality. If you still think that online relationships are taboo, consider that over 280,000 marriages occur in the U.S. each year through online dating.
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How to Start Dating after Divorce

Dating after divorce

How to start dating after divorce is a tricky question and the one question most people who have gone through a divorce will eventually ask themselves. It can be a long time before a person feels ready to get back into dating after years of marriage, time spent healing and reluctance to enter the dating scene. Other questions might come up such as; Am I ready to date? Will I get hurt again? How do I prevent my next marriage from ending in divorce? All are valid questions, but at some time you are going to have to face your fears and not worry about the unknown.
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Dating After Divorce with Children

Dating after divorce with children

Dating after divorce with children can be challenging; who has time to fit one more thing into a single parenting life-style let alone something nerve-racking as dating?

think before you start dating you need first to understand how your children may feel about it. It shouldn’t keep you from taking that step, but it may help you understand their feelings about it.

Many children have a strong desire to see their parents get back together. It may be hard for them to accept the fact their parents are going out with other people. They may even try to compete for your attention or undermine your attempts to date. Just remember, this is because they love both parents and want to be together as a family, they may not know how to manage what they are feeling; that is why it is important to show compassion when they act out. On the other hand, some kids will encourage a parent to start dating just to get them out of the house.
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Why Set Up an Online Dating Email

Setup online dating email

Whether dating online or the old fashion way it is essential to consider safety, for both men and women. Meeting people for the first time can be nerve-racking, however because of technology we have a way to take the edge off; I am referring to email. You can learn a lot about someone before meeting them in person with a few simple emails but before you hand out your email to just anyone I recommend going to Google, Yahoo or MSN and setting up a new, disposable, account. In fact, this is a good idea if you want to curb some of the junk mail you get too. Whenever you are asked for your email address, I give them my disposable one, so my regular email inbox doesn’t get cluttered with trash and emails from people and solicitations I don’t want.
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Qualities to Look for in a Mate

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Qualities to look for in a mate differ from person to person and knowing what you are looking for presents challenges. I remember when I started dating after the divorce I was uncertain about the type of woman I wanted to be with – we all have our dream person, but then reality has a way of slapping us in the face – fairy tales only exist in storybooks.

If you are like me and all you know is one failed relationship after another you need to learn how to break the cycle before taking another step. I was determined to do just that, and the first step is admitting that I am flawed. My self-esteem was almost non-existent, and I lacked healthy communication skills required to have a loving and kind relationship. Before you ever step foot in the dating arena, you need to take a self-inventory of your flaws and strengths. You need to deal with any emotional baggage from the past, let it go and forgive. Free yourself from pity, victim mentality and learn to love who you are. As you look at yourself in a new light improving on the person you are you will become more and more emotionally, physically and spiritually healthy thus changing the qualities you desire in a mate. Continue reading “Qualities to Look for in a Mate”

Dating Communication 101

communication-101

Healthy communication isn’t everyone’s strong suit, especially after a rough marriage which ends in divorce. But eventually the pain goes away, wounds heal, self-improvements are made, and it is time to get back into the dating game.

Communication is a significant part of our lives; we are doing it almost constantly either verbally or non-verbally with everyone around us. Often we might not be sending the message we intend – we often communicate with ourselves, but if we are witnessed doing so, we might get a few odd looks and threatened with a straight jacket. Nevertheless, dating communication skills are worth refining, and the better you get, the better your relationships will be with others. Continue reading “Dating Communication 101”

Online Dating: You Get what You Give

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When I took my first plunge into online dating, my results weren’t that great. I did not spend much time on my profile nor did I seriously pursue potential dates. I guess I hoped it would be easier than what it was and women would be the ones breaking the ice. This mentality made for a long couple weeks with no action at all. Whether you are dating normally or online; I learned that most women still expect the man to make the first move. But before you make a move you need to have a few things in order:
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Breaking the Ice with Christian Online Dating

Breaking the ice online dating

Some people are naturals when it comes to dating, but then there are those such as myself that get anxious and nervous merely thinking about getting back out in the dating scene.

Nevertheless, if you want to meet someone you need to put yourself out there no matter how dating makes you feel. I found this harder said than done. Meeting people of the opposite sex, in my age range, with similar spiritual beliefs, and with some of the same interests proved to be quite challenging. Not to mention having the time or energy to get 10 feet from the house. Yes, dating had its challenges.
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