Questions and Answers

questions and answersThere are always questions that beg for answers after divorce. Here you will find questions submitted by visitors with answers from myself and others. Remember, I am not a professional counselor or pastor; I answer the best I can based on my experience and beliefs. Click here if you would like to submit a question of your own.

Reconcile with Ex Biblical

Submitted by Jennifer Hello. I am engaged to a believer, who has been divorced for 3 years and when we decided to get married, he felt the need that he had to reconcile with his ex-wife. He does not want to reconcile with her because the fear of what happened that caused their divorce is […]

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Question from Mala

I have a question concerning divorced Christians. I know a divorced Christian couple that is trying to reconcile their relationship, however he has been in an intimate relationship with another woman since the divorce. She initiated the divorce however I don’t believe there were Biblical grounds for the divorce. Now he is struggling with returning […]

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God, Are You Listening?

Submitted by Christine I’m one year into a divorce that I didn’t want. I’ve asked so many things of The Lord but I continue to get the short end of the stick or walked all over by the court, my husband and both daughters. Why is The Lord sending my prayers to voicemail?

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How Long Do I Wait?

Submitted by Jennifer Hello, I have been married for two years. My spouse had a short affair a year ago, but we decided to work on our marriage, get counseling, and things did get better. However, in the past 6 months, my husband has resorted to playing excessive videos games and smoking pot 4-5 times […]

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How to Live Life and Honor God

Submitted by Tim Hello, I have been separated for 18 months and divorced for 6 months now. I became an alcoholic, verbally abusive and and an adulterer which ended up in separation. Jesus came into my life 4 months after my separation. I have repented of my sins and sought reconciliation with my wife, but […]

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How Can I Help My Children

Submitted by Becky I was recently divorced after 18 years of marriage. I have a 16 and 18 yo son. My ex-husband has given me full custody of our children. He does not have to be financially responsible for our children, has asked for no visitation and has basically walked out of my kids lives. […]

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Co-parenting Troubles

Submitted by JoAnne I have been happily married to my second husband for 10 years. I have 3 children with my ex. My ex has been through many many woman since we divorced and is with a new one now. The problem is she has a younger child and my children have already been through […]

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Am I Wrong to Feel this Way

submitted by Christy I have been married for 18 years in September and I filed for divorce 3weeks ago. For 14 years of my marriage my husband has been an alcoholic and in complete denial. Because he blamed me for all of our problems, I found myself very depressed most of the time.I have been […]

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Why Does Jesus Prevent Women From Leaving Husbands

Submitted by Hardymum Why does Jesus prevent women from leaving their husbands even if they are being abused? Must a woman have an affair in order to escape a marital nightmare?

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Dazed and Confused

Submitted by MG I do not want to be bitter or resentful. I am currently in the process of a divorce from a 12 year marriage where my spouse started a two year extramarital affair and moved into his mistresses home with her six year old son five months ago. His mistress was also married […]

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Setting Boundaries

Submitted by Beth I have been divorced for a year and a half. My ex had a relationship with another women and has a child with her. She now wants nothing to do with him. The problem is He continues to call me and want to talk about his life. We have 4 children together […]

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How to Deal with the Anger of Divorce

Submitted by Lonese Need help in understanding how to release the anger that I have after my divorce. Want to learn how be able to get a long with him because we have children together. Want to learn how to have peace.

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How to Heal

Submitted by Cindy I would like help with dealing with the loss of the hopes and dreams of my marriage. It seems that everywhere I look I am reminded of things we shared. How do I heal from this? What are the steps I should take to heal? I would also like help with how […]

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What’s Wrong With This Picture?

Submitted by Brock My soon to be ex wife got my 10 year old daughter a cell phone. I don’t have an issue with that, however the “gentleman” that my soon to be ex wife is involved with, who is also my girls karate instructor has his number in my daughter’s phone. She has told […]

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Getting Over Him

Submitted by Faith Ive been divoced for a little a year, still stock him online, constansly dream about him, me, and other woman, have nightmares, think of him during my intimate moments, daydream, basic major denial. im bi polar, have three small children, no family or friend support in my current state, not sure to […]

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Child Custody Help

Submitted by Mike A long story short. I have been divorced for 2 yrs. Up and down with the ex. More down… I have taken care of my 4 kiddos since the divorce. My ex. re married and now is trying to get full custody of our kiddos. I have a 17-15-12-7 year olds. My […]

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Should I Contest Divorce

Submitted by Brock Do I settle if she wants a non contested divorce or do I let her file and contest the divorce, even though the result will be the same. I don’t feel I should pay alimony based on the situation so how do I proceed if she is not being reasonable?

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Why Does God Allow Adulterers To Win?

Submitted by K You know the expression, “Cheaters never win”, well, I’m here to say that isn’t true at least in my case. My ex husband has our boys because I am too ill to care for them alone. He has a new marriage whereas no one would want me once they began to see […]

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Am I Being Punished?

Submitted by Jenny My husband and I had a very difficult marriage. From the beginning he lied constantly, had a drug problem, drank alcohol, didn’t go to church, etc, etc. After 4 yrs I left and filed for divorce. THen something amazing happened – God saved me. And when He did His voice was loud […]

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Help Saving Marriage

Submitted by Joe My wife and I have been married for almost 9 years. We have 3 young kids. I have over the years had some infidelities. I have broken my wife’s trust several times. I hate that I have made those mistakes. Things I thought had been going better for us in recent years, […]

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Blended Families

Submitted by Nadia I’m married to a wonderful man, which was divored before we met. The daughter from this marriage was by the court givin to my husband, it’s not easy for me and I do believe not with her as well. When I met my husband the ex-wife told the child I do not […]

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