A large percentage of Christians remarry after divorce, and guess what? The majority will end up divorcing for the second time. I know that I never want to go through a divorce ever again. However, I do long to be a family, to give and receive love and spend countless hours gazing into my spouse’s eyes while holding her close. Marriage is one of the greatest relationships two people can have, and unfortunately, even with the best intentions, we can screw it up.
I’ve learned that it takes two to make a marriage work and that I played a role in the failure of my first marriage. My faults, insecurities and destructive behavior contributed to the dysfunction of the relationship. After the divorce I was very lonely and wanted a relationship with another woman badly; however, I knew that unless I worked on my weaknesses and mistakes, I would be destined to repeat them.
I was not able to fix all my faults, but I was able to recognize them and admit when I was wrong. I know I can never be perfect, but one thing I am now that I wasn’t before is; realistic. During my first marriage, I had unrealistic expectations and didn’t have the slightest clue about what it takes to make a marriage work.
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