Coping with Divorce Tips

tips for coping with divorceCoping with divorce as a Christian and maintaining your faith can be difficult. Especially when it seems like all you can do is mess one thing up after another or the pain isn’t going away. Remember, we all make mistakes and God will get you through the grief, hurt and loneliness. Below are tips on how to cope with divorce on a day-to-day basis addressing several issues you may encounter.

The Not So Silent Killer of Hope

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I’m certainly no stranger to mistakes. I made plenty when I was married to my first wife and I continue to test the waters. When I slipup, which I do daily, there is no one harder on me than myself. It’s very easy for me to start asking the ‘what if’ question, “What if I […]

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How to Make the Transition of Divorce Easier

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You’re probably telling yourself that it is impossible to transition from marriage to divorce easily and I would have to agree with you. However, many of us make things harder than they need to be. Here are 10 tips to make the transition easier. Remember, life is full of change. We’re either willing change with […]

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Love is in the Air

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Don’t loneliness drive you to make bad decisions simply because it’s that time of the year again. It’s that time of year again, Valentine’s Day, where lovers come together and exchange flowers, presents, candy, loving words and greeting cards (otherwise known as valentines). Brief History on Valentine’s Day Bishop Demetri of the Orthodox Research Institute, […]

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Stepping Stones to Peacemaking

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Madalyn (my 8 year-old) loves to play with our neighbor’s little girl. I am always surprised that they argue so much and tend to not want to share but at the end of the day they still want to hang out together. When Madalyn is in bed I tell her she should be nicer and […]

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You Are Not Alone

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Divorce has a way of isolating a person from the very things that may help them recover. Many people find themselves ashamed, embarrassed and feeling like failures that they often hide the fact they are going through a divorce. Instead of reaching out for help they withdraw from society or try to keep so busy […]

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Change Your Mood with Music

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There are many negative things you can turn to when going through a difficult time in your life. Many people turn to food, alcohol, new relationships or the never-ending pity party. However, you don’t have to make a bad situation worse by doing things that will hurt you in the long-term. After a divorce, relationship […]

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Holiday Blues

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It’s that time again…the holidays are quickly approaching and this season can be a difficult time for those who have gone through a divorce. However, the holiday blues don’t just occur in people who have been divorced. Death, financial hardship and distance from loved ones can all contribute to the holiday blues. For a long […]

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Getting Help for Your Grief

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Losing someone close to you whether it be divorce or death can lead to the same feelings such as; sadness, anger, loss, loneliness and hopelessness. You probably even want them back but you are powerless. This is all part of grieving, a normal reaction to losing someone you love. There are several ways to grieve […]

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Grief after Divorce Still Got You Down

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Grief after divorce can be an on-going process. Everyone’s grief is different and people deal with it in their own way and in their own time. The feelings of intense grief should lessen over time; ignoring, suppressing or rushing it won’t make your grief go away. You simply need to deal with it and let […]

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Reduce Anxiety with Exercise

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Relationship problems and divorce are a major cause of stress, anxiety and depression. If not dealt with they can lead to other health problems and affect your mental and physical health. It is estimated that over 17 percent of the U.S. population has an anxiety disorder that requires some form of treatment. In the olden […]

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Helping Someone Cope with Divorce

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When helping someone cope with divorce it is always a good practice to begin with prayer; for them and for wisdom for you. It is hard to find the right things to say when they hurt so badly and feel hopeless. When a person is going through divorce it is difficult for them to stay […]

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Men Coping with Divorce

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Men coping with divorce is obviously just as common as women coping with divorce but because men and women are wired differently the manner in which they cope can be very different. Men have been accused of lacking emotion or the inability to deal with emotion compared to their counterparts. When it comes to coping […]

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Don’t Just Survive, Learn to Thrive after Divorce

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Going through a divorce is a humbling and difficult process with negative consequences and emotions. Often, people get stuck or wrapped up in the negativity they forget to resume and rebuild their lives. We are all stuck somewhere, the trick is to recognize it and choose to move on. In the initial stages of divorce […]

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God’s Medicine

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It seems only natural to isolate ourselves when we are in pain. For some reason we think we can work through the crisis on our own or nobody will understand what we are going through but the reality is; countless individuals have experienced divorce, stemming from someone simply saying, “I don’t love you anymore” to […]

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Getting Through the Work Day

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One of the last places a person wants to be after hearing about their partner wanting to separate or divorce is at work. As much as we wish we could, most of us can’t turn on and off our emotions in order to concentrate on the task at hand. It is important to understand that […]

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Divorce Got You Running on Empty

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Manage the physical and psychological effects of divorce to better help you make it through the day. Stress in itself is not a bad thing but stress due from divorce can have horrendous effects on our physical and mental well-being. Leaving stress unchecked can lead to all sorts of problems; illness, depression, anxiety, crankiness, inability […]

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Acceptance of Divorce

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Acceptance is a huge step when it comes to divorce; acceptance is a person’s agreement to experience a situation, to follow a process or condition (often a negative or uncomfortable situation) without attempting to change it, protest, or exit. Another way to look at acceptance is simply a response to anything occurring in any moment […]

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Living in the Moment

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If you are living in the past or in the future for that matter, you will miss out on what God has for you today. It also hold’s true that if you focus on what others have and covet then you will be disappointed and miss out on God’s blessings for you. God has many […]

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The Difference Between Grief and Depression

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As I mentioned in the post Help for Grief, grief is a natural response to divorce but it should not last forever and it should not control your life. What is Grief The definition of grief is this – Grief is the normal response of sorrow, emotion, and confusion that comes from losing someone or […]

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Help for Grief

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There is not getting around the fact that there will be grief in your life. We encounter grief for all kinds of reasons; our pet runs away, the death of a loved one, loss of a job, illness, having to move away from family and friends, and divorce. Grief is a normal response when faced […]

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Asking Why vs Asking What

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Why? Is a huge question when it comes to divorce. Why did you cheat on me? Why don’t you love me anymore? Why didn’t God stop this from happening? Why me? There are so many different ways to ask why hoping that the answer will bring some comfort but in reality the answer is rarely […]

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