Thank you Daisy…
My husband left our amazing marriage on May 9th. Literally walked, or should say RAN, out the door with a few things. I’ve seen him once since this has happened. There was no warning, no nothing. A few days of fighting after I found his phone records and him chatting with an old girlfriend who dumped him when he weighed 400lbs. Today he is an amazing 250lbs and looks great. However, he has turned ugly on the inside. My life for a long time was a fog of craziness. Roller coasters of emotions going up and down. I still cry almost everyday, but God has done so many, many wonderful things in my life. First he brought me closer to Jesus, and is building that relationship. I start each day with the Prayer of Jabez, and I cant tell you the amount of territory he has increased. More friends, more family are coming out of the woodwork to help me and the kids get through this. I know there will still be dark days ahead. However, with God’s grace and strength from him I will be ready for my “at bat” no matter what curveball life is thrown at me. God Bless everyone who is contributing to this website. It has made a HUGE difference in getting through the dark days of this divorce. I hope everyone here finds the strength to get through this. Remember that God will give you as many smooth stones as you need for your slingshot. You dont need an army to rid yourself of the giant enemy. Hugs to everyone-Daisy

Hello All,

Just want to share what God is doing in my life. Recently, after 6 months of seperation, my wife and son moved back in with me. I was so escatic that she wanted to work on things, I ended up putting pressure on her without realizing it. See, when she left, I became very humble and close to God, relying on Him completely. So I wanted her to see this new man, and instantly fall back in love with me. Let me tell you, real life is nothing like the movies. I put so much focus on making her see how good I was, I completely fell away from God. This sunday I was at Church, and I felt renewed, 100%. I have been praying a lot, and I believe there are 2 things God is trying to teach me. Patience and Understanding. A lot of people have issues with patience, especially since we live in a world that is so focused on instant gratification. If we can’t have it now, impatience and anger take over. I was reading an article online, and it stated, “God is never in a hurry, but He is always on time.” I love that line even though it tells me that I have to wait. I can’t imagine hurrying God so that my prayers are answered. Jeremiah 17:9 states that ‘the heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure’. Based on that verse, imagine getting all my prayers answered based on how my heart felt. It would be a catastrophy! God knows me better than I know myself. Therefore my prayers are based on what His heart would desire for my life. Many times I felt like saying to my wife, “you know what, you haven’t changed one bit, yet here i am a new man and you can’t open your eyes to see that. Maybe this isn’t going to work”. You can’t imagine how many times I have thought that. But, God keeps me in check. So what I have learned, I pass on to whoever reads this. Have patience and understanding for someone else, regardless of how hard the situation may be. We have to do things in Gods time, not ours. Remember, God is not in a hurry, and neither should you be. God Bless.

Jay

I am happy to report that after this coming week has passed I will be divorced and legally have no more ties to my ex-husband. After a sole-searching, empty, and depressing year I am thankful for the opportunities that God has given me to serve Him and heal through this past (nearly) 15 months. God has done great things in my life and He continues to which I am beyond thankful for. I am thankful for people like you, Jason,
who have followed God’s call to minister to people who are journeying through divorce/separation. There are so many resources out there that we never know about unless we are thrust into this situation, however that may happen. Might I add that I have also learned a tremendous amount about what God thinks or thought about divorce as is written in His word. To say I am thankful for this experience may lead some to think that I am a bit loco (crazy), but I have learned so much, been dawn closer to God in so many ways, and have had opportunities to serve Him that I know I would not have taken had I remained married. So, this experience has been a blessing, even in the darkest days, in my life. Also, I got a small taste of what married life was like. I remain hopeful that God has some special things in store for me, marriage and family included, and I can hardly wait to see what those things are. Meanwhile, I am thankful for the opportunities that He has given me to focus on while my healing continues and I continue to seek a closer relationship with Him. My prayer is that your ministry will continue to grow and encourage those who are walking through this dark, lonely journey and that they will find comfort not only from the material that your website offers, but more importantly through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.

Talisha

Hi Jason…
Im not the best at writing but here goes..i do agree with you that it is wonderful to share our stories with each other. It is after all, our testimony that bears witness to how He works in our lives and His glory becomes evident.

My few months have actually been 12 months to date and im not quite sure how i made it through. Its like when your in something murky and it just goes on and on and you lose track of time and everything.You try and pray and it feels like nothings coming out or anything then all of a sudden theres a break in the sky and you begin to breathe again. The break is on the latter part of the 12 month.

Its like that for me now… i honestly feel like i literally can breathe again and even feel the breeze and the sun again… Life is returning i believe. I think i was perhaps a couple of months into my seperation when i ventured on the internet to see whether i could find anything about it all. I would read your emails hoping that God would speak to me through them… He did on
several occasions and others He didnt or i think i was just unable to hear or perceive.

Prior to Christmas, I had come to the place that i didnt want to think about divorce and i didnt want to think about reconcilitian either, and that that was okay and alright to where i was at, at that time. Giving permission to myself i think. I like lists and order etc so it was quite a thing to come to that resolve and take no pressure from anyone else. My ex-husband i felt had been putting pressure on me to go either way.

I think, God never leaves us and He will work inch by inch in our hearts to restore us back to Him.

I became aware since Christmas that He ever so gently began turning my heart toward life and return ( which for me, is divorce) . I could not even say the word. It still brings sadness but that is lessening and there is more life and hope in it now. I have sung most of my Christian life, which is maybe 16, 17 years. The song died in me…. but now i feel movement on the inside.

It has been His truth that has kept me. ( I do have wonderful friends, a few confidants and family around me also) I kept thinking about that scripture of how the truth sets you free.

Its knowing the truth of how much He loves me. Knowing that even in the worst of my situation that He knows and even that it is not a surprise to Him…this divorce , my divorce is not a surprise to Him…wow .. not that He wants us to be in pain but that it’s no surprise and that even through it, He can still restore and make beautiful my life… now thats amazing.

Ive been a Christian long enough to recognize His handprints in my heart and thoughts… perhaps not very perceptive when its happening but definetly see the differences and feel the life.Almost like you just walk in the room and you know He has just left through the other door and you can almost still feel His presence, His scent, His movement.

I believe He reaches out to us in the everyday parts of life… He has spoken to me throught lyrics in secular songs, in one off meetings with strangers that share something with me for an instance and yet i know that He has just spoken to my heart throught their words. Ive tried reading lots of books that i couldnt even get pass the first chapter then all of a sudden i go to the library, pick up one book and read and the pages come to life. Its as if it was written directly to me.

Similar conversations with different people… Church going, not church going… and they say the same thing… God truly is a God of all… and so above whatever we think we can do or know.

I still have some serious steps to take in my life at the moment but i know He is directing me at this very moment. Almost like a ship, or maybe a boat, when the rudder (the thing that steers) is being slightly turned and if your sitting up the front, you just start veering more than turning a corner or anything. Just veering and adjusting.That brings excitment. And thats very cool.

Its a New Year and i Know it could be a cliche’ but i am ready for new things… im ready to have my life back and reach out and learn new things… im ready to sing again… to be involved again.

So many words of encouragement i could share…

like when you struggle and get lost in the failure of it all and wonder if you’ll get past it… that Yes, He indeed has amazing plans for you and me.. that Yes, He knows us and maps out our lives.. that Yes,He has works that were specifically designed for you and me…that Yes He is not surprised about what has happened and encompassing everything that has happened, He will make our lives beautiful and a delight not only to Him but also to others…

wow i cant even comprehend How amazing He is.. and what the future holds..

But today I marvel at the break in the sky… and the breeze… breathe in deep and pull up my socks and walk on.. Thank you Jason for your obedience and your willingness to share. There is far more people out there going through this stuff that ought to be but life isnt easy… its life .

Well im not sure whether this sharing is what you had in mind but again thank you for your encuragement and being part of the journey for me… Heaps and heaps of blessing to you..

All the best..

Jennyne

A few months ago I posted a prayer request for my family. My wife of 16 years had decided that she no longer loved me and hadn’t for a long time. She had given up. She wasn’t even willing to try. By the time she had told me that she no longer loved me it was too late, she had already checked out. A short time later, after a very short separation, she filled for a divorce on Aug 17th of 2010. We were divorced on Sept 28th, 16 years after we were married on Sept the 9th. She walked away from a life that God had given us and the best place to raise our two wonderful kids. To say that my life was destroyed would be an understatement to say the least. I was devastated that she never said anything to me about how she was feeling. She never gave me a chance to fix anything that she was having trouble with and how it was affecting her love for me. She felt that the only way she was going to be happy was to divorce me and find someone she could love again. The whole time this was going on God keep telling me not to give up, hold on. No matter how much I prayed or studied his word, it kept coming up with the same thing…..Don’t give up. I even started to pray that he would allow me to stop Loving her. But he wouldn’t. I kept telling him, but it kills me to continue to love her and then not have her. GOD, please let me stop.

I would tell God, please just let me move on, it would be so much easier. But he just wouldn’t, he continued to allow me to LOVE her. In all she had done and would do in the month ahead, he NEVER LET ME STOP. It was hard but I knew that the only way I was going to get past what had happened and what was going to continue to happen to me, was to fully trust in God, NO MATTER WHAT. During my time of trials God used one particular song to minister to me, and it’s by Kerrie Roberts Called “NO MATTER WHAT” I found unbelievable comfort in it. It says that no hardships come unto me unless they first go through the fathers hands first and that he is capable of removing all pain and suffering, but if he doesn’t I will praise him “NO MATTER WHAT”. Well last week God showed me why he didn’t allow me to stop LOVING HER. He was working on her, convicting her of what she had done. What she had given up. Who all she had hurt. He finally brought her to her braking point. And in doing that she realize where she belonged and what true love really was.

And she came back to me, PRAISE GOD, SHE CAME BACK TO ME. I knew I served an AWESOME GOD, but now my faith in all my years as a Christian has never been where it is today because of what he has allowed to happen in our lives. In Romans 8:28 it says that All thing work together for GOOD to them that love God and are called according to his purpose. I believe that with all my heart. He has used this horrible thing that he hates to show two People what a loving, gracious, forgiven Heavenly father we serve. He has given us a second chance. We had taken each other for granted. We had taken God for granted. BUT NOT ANY MORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So now my prayer request has changed. Now I would like for all of you to pray that God continues to show us what a second chance is WORTH and that we never ever loose site of that.

And that we never ever take each other or God for granted. I PROMISE TO LOVE,HONOR AND CHERISH MY WIFE AGAIN, BUT FOR REAL THIS TIME!!!!

Thanks,

Its been 5 weeks since my wife seperated from me. The first few weeks were unbearable. How I got through them I can only explain through the grace of God. As each day passed, the load got lighter. Sure the boulder was still there, but I was able to move. Since she left, I have been reading my bible 3 times a day, I’m constantly praying and I’m keeping myself busy. One night I really felt the lord pushing me to read Job. I am just engrossed with his life. He lost everything, and yet still feared the Lord. Today I read a great verse, Job 28:28.

“28 And he said to the human race,
“The fear of the Lord—that is wisdom,
and to shun evil is understanding.”

Widsom and understanding cannont be bought, even with the most precious metals, or rubies. Always remember Gods grace is sufficient enough for us. Things do get easier. I try and keep God, the Holy Spirit, and Jesus as close to me as possible. I still stumble, but this time around, I fall at His feet. Blessing to everyone dealing with this heartache. You are in my prayers.

Jay

Dear Friends:

Back in December I posted a message for support because my wife had left me after 17 years of being together. I wanted to update everyone who was kind enough to offer their prayers and support. In May, my divorce was final. This ordeal has been an incredible journey for me. I have learned that the Lord is with you and you must trust in him when everything in your life feels broken. I still feel that my situation was incredibly unfortunate and sad, but I am finding the strength to move on. Remember, the Lord knowns your pain and he will comfort you. Give yourself the time to except the pain, gain strength, and finally move on with a renewed spirit. I believe that the Lord will guide your life in times of trouble, just have faith. If I gained anything from this experience, I have learned faith indeed can move mountains.

God Bless all of you who are going through this ordeal.

Week Long Fast

The past couple weeks I have been mending and whiel I was doing that I began wondering “why” things happen the way they do. Even spending 10 days at home I found that my focus was more on business and self than anything else. At some point God was pushed down on my list of priorities. You would think that with all the time on my hands I would have been able to squeeze in some bible reading, meditation, or journaling but I didn’t. I thought about how to make it as a single parent, medical bills, paying for the kids schooling, new tires on the car, and a whole bunch of crap that God would provide if I would just let Him.

So instead of getting too wordy here I have decided to FAST (take a break)! Monday 4/19 through 4/25 I will not be using my home computer for work or play. That goes for my work computer as well except for the work part. I want to encourage visitors to continue to submit their requests, emails, and helpful advice, however for that 7 day period of time http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com will not be updated nor will I be responding to emails.
As I type this I am convicted and reminded of the song: “Heart of Worship”

When the music fades and all is stripped away
And I simply come
Longing just to bring something that’s of worth
That will bless Your heart

I’ll bring You more than a song
For a song in itself
Is not what You have required
You search much deeper within
Through the way things appear
You’re looking into my heart

I’m coming back to the heart of worship
And it’s all about You
All about You, Jesus
I’m sorry, Lord, for the things I’ve made it
When it’s all about You
All about You, Jesus

King of endless worth, no one could express
How much You deserve
Though I’m weak and poor, all I have is Yours
Every single breath

Please pray for me because I think I am addicted, and just the thought of not being on the computer is making me anxious. God Bless You ALL!

Jason

Hello,

After 28 years of marriage, I didn’t want to be alone. The last thing I expected was divorce in my marriage. Even though my husband was not faithful, he has been forgiven by God and by me. I won’t belittle him for being imperfect. God loves him too.

I’ve begun my life again as if I were 22 years old. However, I have more bills than I did then. God is ever faithful to me. He is so magnificent and wonderful. I’ve had heartache since my divorce. I know that no matter what my situation, God is with me.

My daughter is getting married next week. I still believe God wants marriage for a man and a woman. He wants the two of them to be as one. God does not want man to separate them. I am happy for them because I know they will be blessed in their marriage.

Some day soon I will be with God in heaven. No, I am not sick but life passes quickly. My advice is to be long-sighted, not short-sighted. Our reward for winning the race is at the finish line. Therefore, finish the race and praise God for His guidance along the way.

Through 2009 I was married, divorced, and saw my divorced spouse Home after a lung cancer illness of
4 months…..Overcoming all of these circumstances is humanly impossible. God has shown His committment, His ownership of the law, extension of forgiveness, and witness of death from all the sin in this world ! I’m having lies I’ve believed clarified, mainly about divorce. God never chooses one over another – is not a respecter of persons – and in Christ there is neither male nor female….I am indeed IN Christ AND NOTHING CAN TAKE HIM AWAY….As I move forward putting my hand to the plough, His Strength is being made perfect in all of my weaknesses. I am and know for sure that I am the chiefest of sinners that God made in His Image, fearful and wonderful…..I fall short of His Glory, but know that everything that happens to me is for my good and His Glory…..I remain ministering to nursing home residents through a Sun. service, continue
giving care to my grand and great grandchildren (ages 13, 7, 4, and 15 mo.) They teach me much and consider that a ministry, too!

I’m learning the real meanings of empathy and sympathy and take full responsibility for getting married to a quadriplegic that I felt so sorry for….definitely poor judgment on my part…..I lean on I John l:9 very heavily….My daily verse that I share is “This is the day our Lord has made, we will rejoice and be glad in it” – Through it all – yes through it all – I trust Him alone…. Without love and forgiveness, this old world wouldn’t be worth anything !