My husband of 5 years and I have been separated for two months now. He is instant on getting a divorce.

After surfacing rumors most proven to be fact, including adultery; I’m no longer certain what I want. I know that regardless to fact or fiction I want to proceed in what ever manner that is right by God. I know that despite all of this I do not want a divorce and this will be against my will.

We have two little girls and this is so painful for them as well (of course). My oldest daughter, 7, is my step daughter so I now rarely see her. My youngest, 4, prays every night that God will bring us back together.

I trust in God. I know that however this ends that it will all be for the best. I am putting all of my faith in God. But this is still so painful. I am constantly confused, thought driven, depressed, heart broken… it is agonizing.

It’s not all bad. Through this I have been refined and grown in Christ. I thank God for this mountain and am so anxious to publicly proclaim my victory in God’s precious name by testimony. I have not only a loving family but a loving in-law family who love, support and encourage me. I am truly blessed and thankful.

Please pray for God’s guidance, His truth, that He gives me patience and His wisdom. Pray that I can ignore the desires of my heart and only follow God with my actions, thoughts and words. Pray for my daughters, that this does not affect them spiritually. Pray for my husband that he is happy and truly follows God. All I want for all of us is to be servants of God.

As John Waller perfectly words in his “While I’m waiting” song;

I’m waiting
I’m waiting on You, Lord
And I am hopeful
I’m waiting on You, Lord
Though it is painful
But patiently, I will wait

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Just come across your site…what an encouragement, God Bless you.
I am currently in the process of a divorce…not the desire of my heart, please pray for strength to get over this mountain.

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it’s been almost 4 years that i have been divorced,i still miss my ex very much,she has remarried but i can’t seem to get over it,the pain is still there,i have asked God to help me(every day),talked to family,friends and pastors. i just want the pain to stop and get on with my life,i still can’t even date yet.

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I was contemplating lately whether I have been making progress in my life towards meeting my goals. Because of this website I can remember years ago when I felt totally devastated and alone. I felt like such a failure! Of course now I know that isn’t the case but I still find myself reading the same types of books. Books that focus on obtaining success through becoming what we think about. I am not talking about financially success, however that is a part of it. I am talking about living a healthy life that is success driven in our relationships, work, families, and community.

Every book I have read seems to focus on the same principles and I find that comforting. They even tie into what the bible talks about as far as living life in the present, having joy and peace. I have struggled with all these things in the past, especially after the divorce. Even today they crop their ugly head because let me tell you… if you have children with your ex spouse they NEVER go away. You are always going to have to deal with them to some extent and the more emotionally healthy you are the better. And that is what these books have helped me to achieve.

We are products of our own thinking and belief system. If we take responsibility for our lives and our actions we can become successful but if we live in a negative – victim-like state we will always feel we got the short end of the stick.

Here are my most recent and favorite books:

Starting with my most favorite, this book is electronically downloaded and is packed with useful information. It is called Burn the Fat Feed the Muscle! Great 300+ page book that goes far beyond living a healthy life. It also includes other books such as; The Science of Goal Achievement, Self Image Secrets, Success Semantics, Motivation Propulsion Systems, The New Visualization Breakthrough, and a couple others. This collection of books will definitely push you in the right direction.

Other Favorites Include:

The Psychology of Winning - Very easy to read book that has a section of “to dos” at the end of each chapter… no their aren’t hard.

Pulling Your Own Strings: Dynamic Techniques for Dealing with Other People and Living Your Life as You Choose - After reading this you will never need to be a victim again, at least according to the author.

Earl Nightingale’s The Strangest Secret - I love this series by Earl Nightingale, I have it in audio for my Apple iPod nano 8 GB Black (5th Generation) NEWEST MODEL
and listen to it often.

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My husband of 8 years moved out October 30th, just 29 days after his grown children moved out of our home. I didn’t say anything, thinking he needed his space to think about things and get his priorities together. He has since been awarded a HUGE settlement in a malpractice suit involving the death of his then-17 year-old son. Now that he has the money, he has no use for me. He has filed for divorce and is planning to have me served with papers today. I am devastated. I love my husband and don’t want this. I have not been blameless in this marraige, and have done some things to help drive him away. However, I want this marraige to work. I don’t want to go through another divorce. Please pray for my husband’s heart, and for the bitter root that has grown in my heart.

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I was separated in 2001 and finally divorced in 2007 after 16 years of marriage. I’m praising God because I get happier and stronger every year–what the enemy meant for evil, the Lord has turned to good!
What I need prayer about is just the feeling of isolation and different-ness I have in church because of being divorced. I wonder if people look at me doubtfully or feel awkward towards me.

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Hello. I am currently 17 yrs old. On Dec 4th, my parents told me they would be seperating because my dad had met another woman and had been having an affair. I was in shock! They have been married for 22 yrs. In my eyes, they had a perfect marriage. I’ve never seen 2 people as close as my parents. My mom tells me everything she is feeling but I can’t imagine without actually being in her shoes. She is completely devastated. My dad still says he loves her but he doesn’t want to try to reconcile. My mom is so confused and uncertain about our future financially. I am starting college in 5 days. She charged my first semester tuition and books to her credit card but doesn’t know if we can keep doing that for every semester. I want to get a job to help out but nowhere in my hometown hires under 18. She doesn’t even know if we’ll still be living in our house in a few months. She has also turned to friends, family, counseling, and God. Please keep us in your prayers as we will keep you in ours.

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I have been separated from my husband for almost 7 months now. The depression seems to get worse. His hatered for me gets worse and worse everytime I speak to him. I pray for my heart to heal and to help me move on with my life. Please pray for me and pray for my husband Robert. I don’t think that there is any chance of us being together but I know anything is possible through Jesus. I just want the pain to go away.

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My husband and I got married right after we were saved, behind our families back since we are young. Now he is slowing becoming less of a Christian. He no longer prays, never reads the Bible anymore, and I have to beg him to go to Church. These were the things thAT originally brought us together and married. I am nto sure if he did something that he is now too guilty of or what. But we are now turning to divorce. Please Pray for him to fall back into religion and to fix our marriage.

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Our family needs prayer! I am in the prcess of a divorce from my husband. It is real bad and seems to never end. I know all divorce is bad but this is over the top. We need miracles!

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I am in the final stages of my divorce. I never dreamed that this would happen to me. When my wife asked that we seperate I begged her to go to counseling. She never considered even trying. I have accepted the fact the my wife wants to move on, but it is hard being seperated from my children. At this point I can not financially withstand a custody battle, but hope to someday do so. I am having trouble dealing with anger and depression as things are coming to a close. I know that the Lord has a plan for me and granted some days are better than others. Please pray for me and my children.

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My marriage is not in a good spot right now. My husband has left me and our children and I have filed for a divorce but do not want one. I love my husband very much but dont know what else to do. I pray for God’s strength, guidance, and understanding as we undergo this terrible ordeal. I pray for God to take away this anger and bitterness each us feels and gives us the courage and strength to make our marriage work. Please pray for us!

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My husband of 22 years has started an affair with my manager at my work place. I suspecited it was going on during the summer of 2009, I confronted him and he did admit it. I hired a Private Investigator to speed up the trial and seperation. We have an 18 yr old daughter who feels the same way as in not able to stay at the house with him, so we are at friends home on a sofa sleeper. I sought out the P.I. for me and my daughter to get back into the home. The pain is almost unbearable, but knowing that God is there with us is a comfort.
Karen

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Please pray for my marriage. My husband walked out when I was four months pregnant. I’ve taken everyones advice: gotten a lawyer, moved in with my folks in Utah(We lived in New York) and am cashing in my 401k to pay off my debts. My sister wants me to ask for sole custody. Yet, all I want is to move back to New York and take the chances of reconciling with my husband. He keeps saying he doesn’t want to reconcile, but I just felt like if I moved back, he’d visit me for the baby’s sake, which would give me a chance. He says he’s divorcing me because he feels my faith in God means I’m crazy. Should I just do what my family says, give up, and try to take sole custody, or should I hope and try to work with my husband and move back to New York so he could visit the baby more often? Please pray for me. I just want my husband back. Pray for his salvation, his sobriety, and our marriage to reconcile.

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Dear Friends at the Christian Divorce Recovery Blog,

Would you please pray for me that I could overcome fear and depression, and become employed again. (It’s been five years.)

My family badly needs both income and leadership from me.

Yours in Christ,

Francisco
Guadalajara, Mexico
PS “Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven.” (Matthew 18:19)

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