Comments for Christian Divorce Recovery Blog http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog Divorce Recovery Support and Prayer Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:08:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 Comment on Prayer Request from Kim by Ashley http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/2010/03/02/prayer-request-from-kim-2/#comment-1552 Ashley Sun, 07 Mar 2010 01:32:57 +0000 http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/?p=649#comment-1552 My husband and I are getting a divorce. He has never treated me right and we have had a rocky marriage from the start. I just found out yesterday that he is having a relationship with another woman with 3 children. We have only been married for a few years but have dated for over 10 years. I am devastated and so hurt. It is unbearable. I am trying to have a closer relationship with God because I know that this is only way I am going to get through this. Please pray that God will give me the strength and confidence to get through this and move on. I know God is with me but I feel so alone. My husband and I are getting a divorce. He has never treated me right and we have had a rocky marriage from the start. I just found out yesterday that he is having a relationship with another woman with 3 children. We have only been married for a few years but have dated for over 10 years. I am devastated and so hurt. It is unbearable. I am trying to have a closer relationship with God because I know that this is only way I am going to get through this. Please pray that God will give me the strength and confidence to get through this and move on. I know God is with me but I feel so alone.

]]> Comment on Submit Prayer Request by Kim http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/2009/04/04/submit-prayer-request/#comment-1548 Kim Thu, 04 Mar 2010 17:53:42 +0000 http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/?p=220#comment-1548 Thank you for your prayers. Kim Thank you for your prayers. Kim

]]> Comment on Prayer Request from Tamra by Jean http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/2010/02/19/prayer-request-from-tamra/#comment-1542 Jean Tue, 02 Mar 2010 15:02:57 +0000 http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/?p=630#comment-1542 Tamra, My heart aches as I read your request. It is so similiar to what I am going through and I know the pain and betrayal you feel. I have found that it helps me to turn my thoughts over to God and not allow myself to dwell on all the horrible things my husband said to me and the blame he placed on me for HIS decisions! God will get you through this, but you must take captive your thoughts and not let the emotional abuse of your husband reign in them! I will pray for you my dear friend. Divorce is horrible! God bless you and heal your wounded heart! "The Lord is close to the broken hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." Ps. 34:18 Check out the book "Divorce Care- hope, help and healing during and after your divorce" It is a daily devotional and it is awesome! I think it is available on Amazon.com Blessings, Jean Tamra, My heart aches as I read your request. It is so similiar to what I am going through and I know the pain and betrayal you feel. I have found that it helps me to turn my thoughts over to God and not allow myself to dwell on all the horrible things my husband said to me and the blame he placed on me for HIS decisions! God will get you through this, but you must take captive your thoughts and not let the emotional abuse of your husband reign in them! I will pray for you my dear friend. Divorce is horrible! God bless you and heal your wounded heart! “The Lord is close to the broken hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Ps. 34:18 Check out the book “Divorce Care- hope, help and healing during and after your divorce” It is a daily devotional and it is awesome! I think it is available on Amazon.com
Blessings, Jean

]]> Comment on Prayer Request from Tamra by Donna http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/2010/02/19/prayer-request-from-tamra/#comment-1535 Donna Fri, 26 Feb 2010 17:02:13 +0000 http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/?p=630#comment-1535 Please remember that God gave your husband free will and you are not responsible for his actions, although you can continue to pray for him. All of your beliefs and dreams about marriage are still there, perhaps buried inside you for now. God knows the longing of your heart and has great plans for you, probably marriage to a wonderful man who will love you in a proper way. He wants a God-centered marriage for you, something it doesn't sound like you had. I'm so sorry you were betrayed, just as Jesus was betrayed. You didn't deserve that and God weeps for you. You are not the one who gave up on your marriage and you musn't give up on your future, either. And...good luck with the job search. I will pray for you! Please remember that God gave your husband free will and you are not responsible for his actions, although you can continue to pray for him. All of your beliefs and dreams about marriage are still there, perhaps buried inside you for now. God knows the longing of your heart and has great plans for you, probably marriage to a wonderful man who will love you in a proper way. He wants a God-centered marriage for you, something it doesn’t sound like you had. I’m so sorry you were betrayed, just as Jesus was betrayed. You didn’t deserve that and God weeps for you. You are not the one who gave up on your marriage and you musn’t give up on your future, either. And…good luck with the job search. I will pray for you!

]]> Comment on Prayer Request from Matt by Jason http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/2010/02/24/prayer-request-from-matt/#comment-1532 Jason Thu, 25 Feb 2010 19:53:43 +0000 http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/?p=641#comment-1532 Matt, give her space and pour your heart out to God. Pray for her as much as possible and never forget that God loves you. Matt, give her space and pour your heart out to God. Pray for her as much as possible and never forget that God loves you.

]]> Comment on Prayer Request from Jane by Jason http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/2010/02/25/prayer-request-from-jane/#comment-1531 Jason Thu, 25 Feb 2010 19:51:16 +0000 http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/?p=643#comment-1531 Jane, I don't know if this is godly advice or not but if he wants to play you need to dismiss him because that is all he is doing and obviously doesn't care about your feelings. 1) He is married and is not dealing with his problems with his current wife 2) If you get emotionally attached he will hurt you again. You don't need him and you can do much better. I am on a positive self talk kick today so here is what I say. Go to your mirror, look yourself in the eye and firmly tell yourself that you are doing great without him and God has a great plan for you. That you deserve a husband that will love you the way God intended and your ex is only getting in the way. Let him know that you have moved on with your life and it is not appropriate for him to pop by anytime. Consider the matter dealt with and move on to a better place in your life. :-) Jane,

I don’t know if this is godly advice or not but if he wants to play you need to dismiss him because that is all he is doing and obviously doesn’t care about your feelings. 1) He is married and is not dealing with his problems with his current wife 2) If you get emotionally attached he will hurt you again.

You don’t need him and you can do much better. I am on a positive self talk kick today so here is what I say. Go to your mirror, look yourself in the eye and firmly tell yourself that you are doing great without him and God has a great plan for you. That you deserve a husband that will love you the way God intended and your ex is only getting in the way.

Let him know that you have moved on with your life and it is not appropriate for him to pop by anytime. Consider the matter dealt with and move on to a better place in your life. :-)

]]> Comment on Prayer Request from Christi by Jason http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/2010/02/25/prayer-request-from-christi/#comment-1530 Jason Thu, 25 Feb 2010 19:41:59 +0000 http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/?p=645#comment-1530 I will pray for you and I like where you want to go. Sometimes it seems harder than it is and I was there, heck every now and again I find myself feeling some of the same emotions. I used to struggle with thoughts all day long that were angry and bitter and what I had to do was make a conscious effort to change my way of thinking. The more I tried to not be angry the angrier I got. I found that if I focussed not on being angry but on being happy then things worked out better. Does that make sense? What I am trying to say is to break the negetivity in your life you need to focus on the things that bring you joy. Dismiss thoughts that are negative quickly... instead of letting them play through in your head, you know what I mean? I would just say here you go God and I would then turn my thoughts to seeing Madalyn (5 year old) running down the sidewalk. She is a great runner and it brings smile to my face. So here is an action step... On a piece of paper start writing down things everyday that are beautiful, bring you joy, etc. do this especially when you feel like you are slipping into that negative state. Thank God for those things and force a smile on your face and try to hold it. Soon you will be cracking yourself up because you feel like a bit of a dork. But then again that may just be me. :-) I will pray for you and I like where you want to go. Sometimes it seems harder than it is and I was there, heck every now and again I find myself feeling some of the same emotions. I used to struggle with thoughts all day long that were angry and bitter and what I had to do was make a conscious effort to change my way of thinking. The more I tried to not be angry the angrier I got. I found that if I focussed not on being angry but on being happy then things worked out better. Does that make sense? What I am trying to say is to break the negetivity in your life you need to focus on the things that bring you joy. Dismiss thoughts that are negative quickly… instead of letting them play through in your head, you know what I mean? I would just say here you go God and I would then turn my thoughts to seeing Madalyn (5 year old) running down the sidewalk. She is a great runner and it brings smile to my face.

So here is an action step… On a piece of paper start writing down things everyday that are beautiful, bring you joy, etc. do this especially when you feel like you are slipping into that negative state. Thank God for those things and force a smile on your face and try to hold it. Soon you will be cracking yourself up because you feel like a bit of a dork. But then again that may just be me. :-)

]]> Comment on Prayer Request for Annie by Jason http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/2010/02/23/prayer-request-for-annie/#comment-1525 Jason Wed, 24 Feb 2010 04:31:16 +0000 http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/?p=636#comment-1525 Annie, what you are feeling is perfectly normal for what you are going through and thank you for your honesty. You know you have sinned and have created problems but don't dwell on the past. Learn the lesson, forgive yourself, and change! We do things for a reason so I pray that God would reveal to your heart what needs to be changed and to point your feet in the right direction to effectively make those changes. God has a plan for you. May God help you and your family to feel His Love and Grace. Annie, what you are feeling is perfectly normal for what you are going through and thank you for your honesty. You know you have sinned and have created problems but don’t dwell on the past. Learn the lesson, forgive yourself, and change! We do things for a reason so I pray that God would reveal to your heart what needs to be changed and to point your feet in the right direction to effectively make those changes. God has a plan for you. May God help you and your family to feel His Love and Grace.

]]> Comment on Prayer Request from Robbi by Jason http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/2010/02/23/prayer-request-from-robbi/#comment-1524 Jason Wed, 24 Feb 2010 04:25:50 +0000 http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/?p=634#comment-1524 Robbi, I understand your anger and the way you feel when away from your child. I used to talk about how much I was over my ex and there wasn't any anger anymore but when I was not with my little girl, I missed her so much I cried to and I loathed my ex. She too was with other men and all I wanted to do was protect our little girl even from her mom at times. I guess the point is I had to realize that I had no control over things when Madalyn was with her mom. I had to pray that God would watch over her and when I was done crying I would try to find something productive to do with my hands and occupy my mind. It does get better and easier but it hasn't fully gone away for me and I have 75% custody. Children are such a joy! Keep hanging in there. Robbi, I understand your anger and the way you feel when away from your child. I used to talk about how much I was over my ex and there wasn’t any anger anymore but when I was not with my little girl, I missed her so much I cried to and I loathed my ex. She too was with other men and all I wanted to do was protect our little girl even from her mom at times. I guess the point is I had to realize that I had no control over things when Madalyn was with her mom. I had to pray that God would watch over her and when I was done crying I would try to find something productive to do with my hands and occupy my mind. It does get better and easier but it hasn’t fully gone away for me and I have 75% custody. Children are such a joy! Keep hanging in there.

]]> Comment on Prayer Request from Troy by Mark http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/2010/02/19/prayer-request-from-troy/#comment-1520 Mark Tue, 23 Feb 2010 09:49:40 +0000 http://www.walkingthechristianlife.com/divorce-recovery-blog/?p=628#comment-1520 Troy, I know this may not help you much, but yes, in many ways I know what you are going thru and my heart and prayers go out to you. My wife told me she wanted a divorce after 18 years. I was angry, hurt, and depressed by it all. I wanted her to change her ways and her mind. I know, after much soul searching, that I can do nothing about it. You see, its all up to the Lord Jesus. I have come to realize that and God has given me peace about it after much prayer. I have no clue if she will ever come back, but I know the Lord will take care of me and my family. The best advice I can give you, is get on your knees and pray about it all. Give the Lord a chance to heal you and your family. Let the Lord work on your wife. Pray often when you feel weak and let the Lord help you. I love you my brother in Christ. May God bless you!!! Troy,

I know this may not help you much, but yes, in many ways I know what you are going thru and my heart and prayers go out to you. My wife told me she wanted a divorce after 18 years. I was angry, hurt, and depressed by it all. I wanted her to change her ways and her mind. I know, after much soul searching, that I can do nothing about it. You see, its all up to the Lord Jesus. I have come to realize that and God has given me peace about it after much prayer. I have no clue if she will ever come back, but I know the Lord will take care of me and my family. The best advice I can give you, is get on your knees and pray about it all. Give the Lord a chance to heal you and your family. Let the Lord work on your wife. Pray often when you feel weak and let the Lord help you. I love you my brother in Christ. May God bless you!!!

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