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Humility Leads to Happiness

Any book that you pick up on the topic of finding happiness will tell you that happiness is a choice. If we spend our lives chasing illusions, we are going to find life unfulfilling. Happiness depends upon our attitude. At this very moment, you have the power to be happy, but the trouble is conquering many of the self-defeating thoughts that reside within you. Life is challenging; divorce, finances, family and work issues can all present major obstacles. You may feel sad, hurt, abandoned, angry and lonely right now but that doesn’t mean you won’t have a wonderful joy-filled future. A major stumbling block to finding happiness is being able to discern what is real and what is ideal. Often we try to do things under our own power driven by our desires, ambitions, and beliefs only to fail or find out that the results aren’t what we expected.

Humility can play a major role in being happy. When we are humble and depend on God, we are admitting we aren’t perfect. There are still things in our lives that we need to learn. Mark Warren talks about how humility can increase happiness by:

  1. Reducing Stress – Divorce, loss and major life changes have a tendency to create a lot of stress. We begin to think that we can change the other person; however, it is impossible to change someone else. When we are humble, we give our problems over to God and trust Him. Our faith can reduce our stress and our happiness increases.
  2. Improving Relationships – People that are self-centered typically aren’t happy. They are never good enough, or everyone else isn’t good enough, so they tend to make everyone around them unhappy. However, with a healthy dose of humility people are much more pleasing to be around. If you are focused on others and not yourself, you will have more friends and better relationships. When you show genuine interest in others, they will reciprocate, and relationships such as these are a true blessing.
  3. Releasing God’s Power – “God gives strength to the humble, but He Sets himself against the proud.” James 4:6. With the power of God, we make it from one day to the next, and we can do all things through Christ.

We all want to be happy, but unfortunately, the path to happiness can be polluted with external circumstances. Always remember that you don’t have to solve your troubles alone. You aren’t going to be able to pick and choose what happens to you and can’t control what others do. You can decide how you are going to deal with your circumstances, focus on your inner self and nurture a positive attitude with faith as a foundation.

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