Grief Model – Depression and Divorce

I never really considered myself to be prone to episodes of depression, now loneliness that is another story. Approximately 6 months after my wife left I found myself very depressed. I would sit in bed and watch “Taxi,” something about the theme song soothed me. In all honesty, I don’t enjoy being depressed, I cry, complain, and feel sorry for myself. It was difficult for me to do the things that needed to be done on a daily basis and the last thing I wanted to do was hang out with people or even go to church. I mean who wants to see all those smiling faces, right?

I found it extremely hard to pray while I was depressed but I tried as much as I could. Continue to give it over to God and remember that it will get better. It may not seem like it but it WILL. If your depression is taking over your life and lasts several weeks you may want to consider seeing a counselor or medical professional.

When talking about depression, it is hard to address the issue for each. There are so many ways to handle it, medication, therapy, prayer, classes, positive thinking, diet, and self-help books; also some people handle it better than others. For me, it was about being able to recognize that I was depressed and finding something good and pleasing to think about. I remember one day watching my 3-year-old running down the sidewalk, now yes she was running from me, but as I watched her I was amazed, her cute little legs moving so fast, her laughing, her hair blowing in the breeze. All I could think about is how God blessed me with this precious gift. I began to feel overwhelmed with joy, and all I could do is grin from ear to ear. Those are the memories you need to conjure up when feeling depressed. The mind is powerful, and you can choose to think about happy things, it doesn’t have to all be gloom and doom even when that is what if feels like all around you. (Remember I am not a medical professional, so I am not responsible for what these happy thoughts might do to you.)

The Five Stages of Grief Are

  1. Denial
  2. Anger
  3. Bargaining
  4. Depression
  5. Acceptance