Dealing with Grief and Divorce

Several instances in the Bible God talks about marriage and divorce and in Malachi He even says how he hates divorce, "For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce, 'for it covers one's garment with violence,' says the Lord of hosts. 'Therefore take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously'" (Malachi 2:16). It wasn’t until I was faced with the reality of divorce that I was able to understand why God would say such a thing. I mean I knew divorce was a sin, with few exceptions, but I did not comprehend just how much damage it was going to cause.

When my wife decided to get a divorce and pursue other relationships I was completely shocked and blown away. In all reality I knew our marriage was lacking but I believed it could have been saved but not only does it take two to screw a marriage up, it takes two to save a marriage as well.

I have often heard about the five stages of the grief model that discusses what a person goes through when confronted with loss. I really never paid much attention to it because I thought it related to death but I soon learned that was not true. I experienced every stage and had to go through each one, one at a time. The five stages are:

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