Christian
Divorce Recovery
Is God to Blame?
The shock of divorce can have devastating effects on a person and/or
family. One of the first things people do to rationalize what has
happened is to go on the defense and start the blame game. Often times
God is on the receiving end of that blame and people blame Him for their
troubles or think that He is passing judgment for past sins.
The truth of the matter is; God is not to blame and God is not punishing
you. Many of us are in this situation because of the choices we made.
Marriage is a choice, just like with any major life decision it comes
with the good and the bad. When you go out to buy a house you can expect
to have problems. At some point you will need to replace the carpet, or
paint, or even fix leaking pipes. This are all pretty simple issues
compared to if your home was to burn down and you were left with
nothing. Well that is how divorce can feel like. Sometimes you may have
been aware that there was a problem but the price was too good. Maybe
the problem was hidden and you did not learn of it until it was too
late. Maybe you were hasty in your decision to buy. The point is when
choosing a mate and making the decision to marry there are risks.
However, it was a choice, no one forced you to marry. Granted there may
have been circumstances outside of your control but that is not God’s
fault.
Blaming God is a futile effort and what was done is done. Don’t harden
your heart and let the enemy get a foothold on you because of the
bitterness of divorce. Maybe your relationship with God has not been
what it should lately, well now is the time to change all that and
rebuild. By getting into the Word and regular prayer God will meet you
there and get you through this distasteful time. Rest assured that God
loves you and will bring you through this along with grace and
blessings. God has a habit of bringing good out of bad situations. In
the end you will be stronger than you were before and capable of helping
others who are going through the same life changes as you have.