Broken things can be made useful!
Many of us, most likely all of us, have been in a marriage that was unhealthy, dysfunctional, and sometimes abusive. As time went on, we may have fallen victim to what our partner would say and do to us. We come to believe that we are weak, that we are the cause, that we are worthless, that we are failures, and that we are monsters.
This is often referred to as verbal and psychological abuse, but I tend to try and steer clear of labels because they are broad and I think that we all at one time or another can be “labeled.” I think that two people get in a cycle and treat each other inappropriately. For one reason or another, there is a communication break down, and healthy communication is not practiced by either party until eventually one person breaks down and starts to believe the other. We start letting our spouse define who we are. We lose our identity, our self-esteem, and our ability to stand up for ourselves.
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