Many divorces end because of infidelity in the marriage, my wife left me a week before Christmas and moved in with another man. I was completely clueless! While she was out having a good time with her new found love I was home heartbroken trying to figure out what the heck had happened, alone and miserable. Part of me was jealous that she already had another person to share her time with. I wanted to run out and get into a new relationship as well, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized that it was a bad idea. My intentions would have been entirely selfish, and my emotional state was unhealthy thus leading to an unhealthy relationship.
Some research that I found on the Internet suggests that it can take 2 to 3 years to adapt to divorce, longer if illness or job loss occurs during the same period. To be quite honest I can see that to be true. This coming December will be my 3-year mark, and I can honestly say that I feel good, I feel like really getting to know someone in a healthy manner, and I feel like the evaluation and work I have done on myself has paid off.
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