Unforgiveness grows into bitterness and resentment, poisonous emotions that torture you. These emotions cause stress and pressureand can lead to unhealthy physical and emotional ailments. Unforgiveness does not torture the person that wronged you it only tortures you. It creates suffering.
Unforgiveness and resentment are the ties that bind you to the past, to the wrong that was brought upon you. It is impossible to leave the past behind and get on with your life while you are living in unforgiveness. It causes bitterness and resentment, which overflows into your present day. Bitterness is a very slow form of destroying one’s peace of mind. It prolongs the hurt and makes you miserable.
Continue reading “Unforgiveness: The Root of Bitterness”
After a divorce, there can be many, many “you did this!” “You did that.” statements. The kind of conversations that only lead to an argument filled with anger and hate towards one another.
There are several times a year, even still to this day that I get a call or a letter of what a lousy husband I was. At this point I have two options; option 1 is to defend myself for the hundredth time and attack back. Option 2 is to let it go.
They may be attacking you and dangling that hook in front of you, but you don’t have to bite and attack back. You already know in your heart that you made mistakes; you know they made mistakes, and you know that you are a good person working on being a better Christian day by day. God has forgiven you, you have forgiven yourself, and it is not your fault your ex can’t do the same. You no longer live in the past, and that is a choice you have made. Your ex may not be to that point, or they may simply be having a really bad day and feel like bashing you.
Continue reading “Stop Playing the Blame Game”